Pain or hurt is part of love. You must accept this. There is no way out of it. If someone whom you love very much, if they don’t smile at you, a simple thing, if they are preoccupied with something, that hurts you very deeply. You don’t get hurt by someone indifferent to you, someone whom you do not know. Only through going inward, and turning this hurt into prayerfulness, can you overcome the pain. The pain can push the love out of you and make you hateful, or the same pain can make you more prayerful, and more surrendered, and more unconditional in your love. Pain can destroy the enemy of love, the demand. Pain is that weapon that love has, in order to get rid of the demand inside. That is when? When you go deep into it, and observe, and be by yourself.