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Thursday, 30 May 2013

We are  in the grip of hidden causes of problems -continuously. Solutions lies in opportunity which life brings on daily basis. Your vital decisions and several steps you take,will decide your fate. You have to make astonishing revelations to discover the  route cause of your problems and sometimes threads are connected to our past lives. You might be asking why you have never been lucky in your life,why love has never been part of your life?  We ourselves hold the answers within.
So what should we do to enable happiness in life,happiness which you have been waiting for so long. Sometimes problems arguing you is so crucial and extra ordinary that a new radically solution has to be found and the one best suited to your particular needs,seek someone else to help you.
We knew all questions and answers but want someone else to repeat and put a stamp of YES-O.K. Belief systems are such. Sometimes you may consider yourself to be mad but you can not change the facts and destiny of your life.
In old books it is written that human cells are changing and whole internal system of bones and cells changed after a period of seven years,  our KARMIC CYCLE also changed after a period of seven years and only seven days time is there to change the cycle.
Our life is made up of many cycles and some are carry forward from our past lives,it may be positive and good or full of worries,concerns,distress and isolation. After seven years KARMA weakens and if you do nothing during fix period of seven days, you will be tread for seven years of same KARMIC PATTERN.Some rituals or ceremonies are designed to recharge your life force with luck,happiness and energy potential so that you may derive the most from the beneficial effects which will unleash bad effects,good luck will flock to your side and this will followed by a positive change  in the way people will treat you.
Arrival of good tiding and you will lead a life which rain their benefits down on you. So notice when drastic changes are happening in your life. Whatever you do remember that life is made up of subtle vibrations,which changes with our thought process. Get rid of negativity to attract good luck.Be optimistic,as the sun rises in the morning,the luck will be with y
Fairy tales have fascination. Even grown ups like to venture in fairy land. Where every thing is possible with magic. You can do magic here on the earth with power of love,love and  unite with others -feel a part of crowd as we feel safe and secured in the company of people.This will bring you luck. Approaching friends and people you trust helps in moments of need and always gives great strength.


When you think about the future, what do you see? And when you stop to imagine what the next phase of your personal story will bring, what comes to mind? To what extent is this prediction coloured by hope or fear? How might you be seeing what you want to see or - due to some perverse twist in your inner-psychology - what you don't want to see?At busy tourist spots, cartoonists ply their trade. They offer portraits but they actually create caricatures - amusing drawings in which the sitter's most distinctive features are exaggerated. You could argue that in the back of every human mind, a caricaturist sits and sketches. It is not just people's physical features that we sometimes distort for dramatic effect. Our views of many situations are subtly adjusted. Sometimes, we downplay faults and sometimes, we blow them out of all proportion. But really, you must strive for clarity.
'An eye for an eye,' as Mahatma Gandhi, once observed, 'will make the whole world blind.' If we sincerely, seriously, want to improve the quality of life for every inhabitant of this planet, we must strive to find a way to put love and forgiveness before anger and resentment. It all sounds jolly nice and easy but it is a lot harder to put into practice, especially when it seems we need to love the unlovable and forgive the unforgivable. Yet We  have been born blessed with some saintly qualities. Let them shine.  The more we see conflict between what the past found appropriate and the present looks at. The piece is a celebration of sugar that might offend many a dentist or diabetic. Yet you are now in a position to make someone else's life sweeter. There's no harm in that.
Nature can sometimes be unkind. But mostly, the earth supports its inhabitants and gives far more than it takes, regardless of whether that giving is met with ambivalence or appreciation. People, too, are fundamentally generous. Their natural instinct is to be helpful and supportive wherever possible. Yet sometimes they deem it impossible. They create exceptions and thus make the world a much harsher place than it needs to be. The more you can find in your heart to give  the more the universe will give back to you. What is the best way to end up a winner? Refuse to be daunted by the thought of losing. Whilst it's true that many people drive themselves to success through a fear of failure, such individuals can never fully allow themselves to relax. How can we seriously equate such a mental state with 'winning'? What would happen if you were to drop all your anxiety about something going wrong? This wouldn't make you careless. Your natural sense of responsibility is too strong for that. It would just make a situation much easier. You deserve that.  
Free speech is a wonderful thing, even when it facilitates the expression of ideas or beliefs that seem outrageous. And nobody can say that the majority is always right. Right or wrong, though, their views hold sway. As you now try to unravel a complicated situation in your life, you need to establish some understanding between what most of you wants and what a bit of you wants. Try to be fair.
What if you go too far? What if you overstep the mark? Wouldn't it make much more sense to keep your head below the parapet and behave as most 'normal' people would do? It might, but then, how 'normal' are you? And how 'normal' do you want to be? Aren't you an exceptional individual who deserves an exceptional opportunity? Doesn't life now present you with a chance to do something very differently to get some distinctly different results? It may be time now for you to dare to experiment. 
Is there method to your madness? Is there reason to your rhyme? Are you taking a wild stab in the dark? Or allowing your intuition to guide you with pinpoint accuracy? Don't be nervous for fear of being asked a question that you don't know how to answer. Be confident. The answer you suspect applies, actually does apply. And what currently seems to be a missing piece of logic, will reveal itself later when more explanations are available. Others are entitled to their doubts now, but you are entitled to your certainties!The idea of taming something dangerous is universally attractive. How can anyone resist the notion of a soothing melody being used to mitigate what might otherwise be a very stressful situation? But for you, it is worth trying to find the courage to be charming.
Imagine two world leaders meeting to negotiate a treaty. Neither speaks the other's language, so they need a translator. But who will do this job? In the interests of fairness, it is decided that each must have their own. But then, those translators could conspire together to misrepresent the truth for a nefarious purpose. So the translators should have translators too! It is amazing how complicated a simple process of communication can sometimes become. The key to simplifying everything... is trust though we need love,money and wellbeing too!What amazing powers you have already been born blessed with. What gifts, what talents, what insights and understandings. Using only what you have naturally got available to you, you can work the most magical wonder.

Wednesday, 29 May 2013



Whenever we think back over the past, we start to see ways in which our ability to see the future was less than complete. We never expected this to happen or that to occur. No wonder we get apprehensive when we try to anticipate what lies in store next. If we fail to foresee Event X, perhaps we won't be ready for Event Y, either. Yet though none of us have perfect powers of prescience, your abilities are at least as good as anyone could ever reasonably hope to have. Trust your most positive vision of tomorrow. It may well be right.
Whilst an opportunity might have the potential to lead to trouble, it might also have the potential to bring great delight. And there is certainly no guarantee that doing the easiest, obvious, thing will afford you some kind of safety and protection. Life may often seem like a constant struggle to fulfil financial and emotional obligation but actually, it is supposed to be a great adventure. Many people insist that we were put on this earth to explore, to discover - and to enjoy ourselves. Could this be your chance to prove them right? 
The world, as I rather suspect you may have noticed right now, is a crazy place. One of the most spectacularly silly things about it, is the way in which it is populated by so may people who go to such great lengths to pretend that everything is sensible and sane. Of course, it isn't! How can it be? The art of successful survival does not involve tracking down the one true source of logic; it involves learning to accept with grace, the endlessly paradoxical nature of existence. Your sense of humour is your greatest friend.  
No matter how selfless we may try to be, none of us can really hope to understand exactly how the world appears through the eyes of someone else. Naturally, our own feelings and experiences dominate our perspective. Yet an effort to be sympathetic is always much more than a gesture. Relating to others helps others relate to us. And it also helps us to see our own situation in perspective. Someone in your world now, appears to lack compassion. Isn't that all the more reason why compassion should be extended to them?
 'Just a spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down.' It is no longer acceptable to sing the praises of sugar. Dentists say it is bad for our teeth and nutritionists believe that it provides empty calories that cause weight gain. Anyway, the conversational, psychological equivalent of sugar does no harm at all. Try to be sweet.  
  The key question is not, 'Why does life seem to be so unfair?' Instead, you need to ask, 'What's still possible, even if too many restrictions and limitations are operating?' The one opportunity that remains open to you may well be the only opportunity you actually need to explore. Now, I must be a little careful. I am not, repeat not, encouraging you to take desperate measures. The 'big chance' that, involves making a positive, constructive, move. If you can't yet see what that could be, keep looking. 
Stand up! Sit down! Don't read another word. Well, okay, go on then. You can look at the next couple of sentences.' Are you beginning to tire of life in a world where everyone is barking orders yet many of those instructions conflict? And why are you obliged to accept other people's choices and priorities? You now have an option to set the agenda, to take charge of a seemingly chaotic situation and to assert your own strength, even over those who have been behaving in an overbearing fashion. You are entitled to this!  
When we agree with other people, we gain a sense of comfort. There is something reassuring about knowing that the folk around us see life from much the same point of view as we do. But that hardly becomes a reason to start deliberately embracing the world's most popular or fashionable ideas. Better by far, to be thought of as an oddball, yet to remain true to a point of principle. Resist the subtle pressure that you may now feel, to comply with an expectation. Your idea maybe more controversial but that doesn't mean it is wrong. 

Monday, 27 May 2013

TRY NOT TO BECOME A MAN OF SUCCESS BUT TRY TO BECOME A MAN OF VALUE!
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How far away is tomorrow? It is as near as ever it was. And as elusive. There is a lot of truth in that old adage that, 'Tomorrow never comes.' As soon as it gets here, it becomes today. But if you stop to think about how your life has changed, it becomes fairly clear that at some point, perhaps when you weren't looking, tomorrow really did catch up with you. It took up residence in your life. It didn't so much say, 'Here I am.' As, 'Here you are, living in me!' You are about to see proof that those changes have been very good for you.
When people find themselves obliged to make unpopular statements, they usually try to sugar the pill. If, for example, a criticism needs to be articulated, it may be best to preface it with praise and then follow it up with another compliment. For the person being spoken to, this makes it harder to make an immediate objection. Now, what are you honour-bound to communicate? Better to expend a little energy finding a good way to say it, than to expend a lot of energy dealing with the consequences of saying it tactlessly.Everybody has different personalities so its important to  maintain yours.It is not worth to hormonize things person or situations which are not compatible.
There is now quite a long list of things that you seemingly can't do - or mustn't do - or mustn't even think about doing. Whilst it may be very wise to respect these restrictions, it is unhealthy to dwell on them to the point where you start to resent them. Somehow, you need to focus on what remains possible, on what may be permissible or on what options are open to you, despite those various closed doors. That's not just a technique for helping you to feel better; it is the only viable route to greater freedom.
You haven't got an opponent. But you may be dealing with someone who isn't yet entirely convinced about what you have to offer or why you matter so much. Through the choices you make and the actions you take, you could influence their attitude. Mounting a charm offensive is like embarking on any other great campaign. It requires commitment and patience. And charm alone may not be quite enough. You may also have to demonstrate your natural aptitude for a particular task. But it can all be done.
How good is your luck? Let's try phrasing that a little differently. Are you alive? Are there things that you enjoy, people who make you feel happy and experiences for which you really have reasons to be grateful? If you can answer 'yes' to at least some of the above, then your luck isn't just good; it is excellent. Indeed, it is hard to see how even a lottery winner could consider themselves luckier. For the simple existence of a large sum of money in a person's life, guarantees none of this. You are truly lucky, as soon you will see the brighter side of your life and forget all other irrelevant things.
Words, for all that they have great potential power, hardly do justice to many profound emotions. There are some feelings that it is simply impossible to describe. The best that even the greatest writer can hope for is to convey a slight sense of meaning through metaphor and analogy. And if even poets struggle as they pass through poetic territory, how are the rest of us supposed to articulate vital, personal, points. Someone is having difficulty saying something. Try to make an allowance for this and to empathise
None of us like to be thought of as inconsistent. Indeed, we strive so hard to avoid earning such a reputation, even inadvertently, that we find ourselves sticking to promises we have made. We stick to policies that we have adopted, even when we no longer agree with them so wholeheartedly. But to be too concerned about losing face can result in feeling obliged to put on a face that no longer reflects the real state of a situation. Better to allow for a little honest change than to maintain a deceptive status.
We are all, to some extent, self-centred. How can we not be? Even if we make a conscious effort to see things from other people's point of view, to empathise with the feelings of those around us and to care deeply about the well-being others, we still see the world, first and foremost, as it appears to us through our own eyes. But in at least striving to understand what may be happening in someone else's head and heart, we don't just improve our relationships; we improve ourselves. Great sensitivity is called for present situations.





 Do your best to invest in yourself today; your future depends on it

He just saved her from a fire in her house, rescuing her by carrying her out of the house into the front yard, while he continued to fight the fire. She was pregnant and the firefighter was afraid of her at first, because he had never been around a Doberman before.
When he finally got done putting the fire out, he sat down to catch his breath and rest. A photographer from Charlotte, North Carolina noticed the red Doberman at a distance looking at the fireman.
He saw her walking straight towards the fireman and wondered what she was going to do. As he raised his camera, she came up to the tired man who had saved her life and the lives of her babies, and kissed him, just as the photographer snapped this photograph.
Always appreciate people for the good deeds they do to make us happy, as it would matter a lot to them, a lot more than we can understand. Let's all share this story and never forget that.

Sunday, 26 May 2013

What if it all turns out to be fine? What if fears prove irrelevant and problems become easy to solve? What if one of the greatest sources of tension and insecurity in your life right now is really just the result of a misunderstanding that is surprisingly easy to address? What if almost all of the energy that you are now tending to expend on a troublesome situation is actually unnecessary? I'm not just asking these questions in an attempt to make idle conversation; I'm trying to help you see your situation from a more appropriate angle!
It is amazing what can happen when we improvise. When we think positively, when we allow ourselves to explore our ingenuity, when we unleash our creativity, we can solve so many problems. We can make do and mend. We can turn sows' ears into silk purses. We can see how something tremendous is hiding within something troublesome. Don't underestimate your potential now, and don't waste your precious energy feeling aggrieved about what you appear to be short of.We tend to think of time as a one-way street. 
We are proceeding forward along it and there is no option to travel in reverse gear. I'm not convinced about the idea that the clock can never be turned back but let's leave that issue aside and just look at how any of us can expect to get from here to the future. We don't need to make an effort. It is inappropriate to see ourselves as needing to walk or drive. We could just stand still and the future will come close! Why, just look at what is starting to happen in your life now! 
Is the Xbox One the best new entertainment machine? The makers would like us to think so. But then, people go to such efforts to whip up enthusiasm for their new inventions. Yet really, if you want to be impressed by something, just look at what lives within your own mind. Appreciate your own Technicolor vision, Sensurround experience and state-of-the-art communication interface. You have already got the most amazing memory upgrade! 
To all intents and purposes, you now enter a whole new world. Things may be much as they were before in one way but in another, they could hardly be more different. New dynamics are coming into play, new rules apply. These changes may seem subtle but they have immense meaning. You need to stop thinking in quite the way that you used to think. There is no point in applying yesterday's standards to today's dilemmas. You have got far more freedom than you realise. And, as you are about to see, that's great.
The world sometimes seems to be full of truths that must never be spoken and secrets that must always be kept. We tiptoe around each other, attempting to avoid potentially controversial topics. We don't want to cause offence, yet nor can we always manage to maintain a state of silence when we perceive something as unacceptable. You are really not sure what to do for the best in a sensitive situation. Look for a diplomatic way to say what must be said. But remember, you have a duty to say it.
We all like to be impulsive and spontaneous. When everything has to be planned in advance, tied to a timetable or restricted in accordance to a set of rules, life soon starts to seem very dull. Yet various circumstances are now putting you under pressure to watch your step, limit your commitment and curb your enthusiasm. There are some aspects of this requirement that you have to abide by - but only some! Somewhere in your world , it is possible to gain a great deal out of the use of just a little imagination.
Politicians like to think that they know how to put right whatever is wrong. Nor is it sufficient for them to simply present themselves as people who have all the answers. They must also make a distinction between their solutions and those of their opponents. Other politicians also think that they know how to put right whatever is wrong. None who seek power are ever allowed to say, 'Oh, I'm not sure about this. I need some time to think.' Yet it is surely better to concede a genuine doubt than to feign false certainty.
It is easy to worry. That is why it is such a popular pastime. Anyone can do it. No special skill is required and the world is full of people who will support you in indulging your anxieties, just as long as you in turn support them with theirs. And, of course, it is surprisingly hard not to worry. That takes special effort and discipline. Even when the art has been learned, it is never fully mastered. Training yourself not to worry about one thing affords no guarantee of immunity to any other cause for concern! Even so, try the difficult option. 
We have all got language. We can all find a way of requesting a cup of coffee or tea. We know how to make ourselves understood - at least in this basic way. But how good are we at communicating deeper, more profound thoughts? When it comes to sharing our thoughts and feelings on strong emotional matters, we tend to hint and allude. It is hard to be so bold and direct. Listen carefully to what someone is really trying to say to you now. Give them the benefit of the doubt. What seems trivial actually conveys great meaning. 
'Right! That's it! From now on there is going to be no more X-Y-Z.' With statements like these, we attempt to assert some sense of control over chaotic factors. Sometimes, we find it easy to adhere to those declarations of intent, sometimes the new regime proves hard to establish and sometimes... Well, sometimes all that we have promised ourselves comes to pass but then we slowly start to see that perhaps we have been a little too hasty. It is not too late for you to back down from a place that you have only recently occupied.
How much do you trust yourself? There can really only be one acceptable answer to a question like that. It needs to be 'a lot'. Or words to that effect. If you can't say that, you need to work on your relationship with yourself. The good news is... that's a fundamentally healthy relationship! Even if it has been damaged, it can be healed. Even if you lack confidence, you can gain it. You can accomplish almost anything, as long as you keep your doubts in perspective and afford yourself the respect you deserve.

Saturday, 25 May 2013


Doesn't time fly when you are enjoying yourself? And doesn't it drag when you aren't? Time also seems to speed up when we want it to slow down - and to ramble when we wish it would rush. Can we conclude that time is not on our side? Time, ultimately, is an illusion. We treat it with too much reverence. We give it power because we all agree to pretend that it is real. We do something similar with money. In your spirit, though, you know something that matters far more. So, trust that.
Having gone through a complex list of options, we finally realise that 'all that's needed is this, or that'. It is usually so obvious that, once we've seen it, we can't imagine how we ever missed it.The script is being rewritten. The story of a key involvement is being retold. How things were, is no longer how things are. How things will be, it's clear, is different again. Make sure you are not reading the old notes. That could put you at a big disadvantage. It could even turn back the clock and cause you to return to a situation you have only recently escaped. Even if you think you recognise some of the clues and cues that you are now being given, you may yet find they mean something delightfully different.
Draw a deep breath. In fact, draw another one. They are free, after all. And anyway, breaths don't just keep us alive - they keep us calm and clear when we concentrate on them. Why might you need such assistance? Well, I am sure you have your own list of reasons - but these are all symptoms, not causes. The true culprit is cosmic. You are under great pressure. You can no longer avoid a difficult decision. Events, though, are about to solve pressing emotional problems for you - neatly... and nicely.You can't walk backwards into the future. Nor can you keep casting your eyes over your shoulder. This act will cause you to stumble or, worse, it will be taken (by whatever you are so keen to make sure is not following you into the future) as a sign that, somehow, 'it is still wanted'. The tomorrow that you have long promised yourself will come one day is, in fact, here. Or at least, it is if you are prepared to treat it as such and to give it a chance to work its magic, unfettered by old expectations. 
You are not a great believer in doing things by the book. The book was written a long time ago by someone you never met. You do, though, believe in striving to be moral, ethical, honest and fair. Sometimes, it seems that this integrity results in complication. Things that ought to be simple prove tiresome and long-winded because you feel unable to take the same questionable shortcuts that others help themselves to. Now, though, in your emotional life at least, you are about to reap the benefit of behaving so well.
None of us wants to seem foolish. All of us, though, recognise that there's something very wrong if we can't ever allow ourselves to play the fool. You are currently conscious of your image. It is clear that certain people have a particular opinion of you and, for various reasons, you would like to ensure that you continue to project an air of gravitas and authority. How important is this really? Can't you just relax and be yourself, the more you try to keep up a pretence, the less love there will be in your world. 
 Here comes your breakthrough, your great revelation and your wonderful chance to instigate a different plan. Will it really all be different from now on? Actually, yes - even if not so much as one slightly extraordinary event takes place. The power of a single, positive thought, occurring to the human mind at a significant moment in time, can sometimes be enough to create tidal waves of change. At minimum, you'll have a big idea soon. And probably, you'll have a whole lot more to celebrate, too, source of tension will soon die down. You feel you have been left with a mess to clear up. It may be a financial mess - or a cause of social or emotional confusion. Whatever it is, the worst is over. You don't yet understand what has caused a problem. You thought you were in safe territory. But no territory is ever safe when it contains a loose cannon firing off missiles without due thought to the impact they will make. Don't be overly cautious... but watch what you say... and when. 
 When you are driving down a long road, you'll see one truck trying to overtake another. The two wagons may be of similar size and engine capacity. One, though, is ever so slightly less fully laden and thus capable of travelling a tiny bit quicker. Slowly, it begins to pull past. You may be sitting behind thinking, 'What's the big deal?' whilst waiting for your chance to leave them both behind. But progress is progress, no matter how slow it may seem. Remember that, especially in all matters of emotional involvement, now. Two things will make your emotional life more successful and satisfying soon. The extent to which you grow closer to someone whose support and trust you need, just as much as they need yours... and the extent to which you allow yourself to relax, regardless of how intense a situation seems to be getting. 
We could boil it down to: 'Be sweet and keep smiling.' But, though you face complex circumstances... that pretty much IS all you have to do. You are kind, you are compassionate, you are always willing to take a long diversion from your path if it will help someone you care about. These are all qualities to be proud of. You are not, though, some kind of mythological martyr or psychological superhuman. There's a point past which you should not go. And you always know when you have reached it. Instead of saying 'OK, that's enough', though, you tend to feel bad about drawing the line. Don't do that. Do your best and when you can do no more, do no more. 
 A cloud is just a mechanism for delivering silver linings. That's not an easy thing to remember, especially if you happen to find yourself being soaked by a heavy downpour. None of us like to get wet. All of us like to benefit from the fruits of a harvest reaped from well-watered ground. Oh look, I know that you know what I am trying to say here. This is stuff you've heard a thousand times before. There's nothing new about it, though, in your emotional life in particular it is what you need to hear. You are getting what you need. 
Emotional life's problems can be tacked by your own brave decisions thereby you can remove whatever itching or irritations. Emotional  life has great impact so sometimes emotions overpower you and take more than you expect,they might do. Your regrets can be turn into rewards by your own efforts, to have real understanding and meaningful relationship only words can do wonder .We spend a lot of time speaking to each other, and almost (though not quite) as much time listening. But true communication remains rare. How much of an understanding do you have with  your loved ones depends on what we say.
We are all of us easily irritated. We may consider ourselves to be calm, measured and mellow. But sooner or later, someone or something will fill us with fury. Whenever passions run high, decisions are made without true regard to affordability or implication. You now have a chance to step back from a decision that was reached in a moment of madness. Don't let pride or false fear stand in your way. An amazingly constructive healing process can soon begin. Don't worry about what the future holds. 
 Life, some people say, is too short to drink bad wine. But mainly, the folk who say this are the ones who work for the marketing department of expensive wineries! And just how short is life anyhow? Well, it's long enough to get bored or disillusioned or depressed within. That's why the really crucial statement that needs to be made is not about wine; it's about wisdom. Life is too short to take anything seriously. Let go of what upsets you and everything in your personal and emotional life will rapidly start to get better.
The planet we live on spins like a top. It's a roundabout ride or even - bearing in mind that, as the Earth spins, it travels round the sky'. A wheel within a wheel. No wonder we get dizzy sometimes. We can't 'stop the world' but we can fix the motion sickness by finding the centre of our inner-world. Deep in your heart there is a source of tranquillity and stability. Draw a breath. Put down your anxiety and your fear for a moment.  
Some things matter more than money, status, or even pleasure. Recent events have inspired you to start thinking deeper thoughts and explore wiser ideas. You are also growing keen to make sure justice is done. If an unsatisfactory matter isn't put right, it will be on your conscience a long time. The fact that a problem is not your fault is neither here nor there. You know you can do something positive. What else do you need to know? The more you help someone else become happier, the happier you'll get too.
Why are you putting up with you-know-what? Is it truly crucial? Or have you been talked into making a move that you may long regret? These are the questions you are asking yourself now, expecting some rather sorry answers. Yet, though your concern is understandable, it is misplaced. You have not made some dreadful error. You have correctly appraised a set of confusing options. Your logic is sound, your choice is wise and your route from here to a happier future is assured. All you have to do is resolve not to worry. 
 You don't have to be afraid of anything or anyone. So what's niggling away at your composure and confidence? Who has the power to threaten you? Nobody, other than yourself. A part of you is unsettled. That's the only reason you are vulnerable. Don't waste time trying to right wrongs in the outer world. Work on the part of your inner world that's out of alignment. Set your mind at rest. Change a bad memory. See the positive side of the past. Then you'll see what's so potentially wonderful about your present and future

Friday, 24 May 2013

We are all of us easily irritated. We may consider ourselves to be calm, measured and mellow. But sooner or later, someone or something will fill us with fury. Whenever passions run high, decisions are made without true regard to affordability or implication. You now have a chance to step back from a decision that was reached in a moment of madness. Don't let pride or false fear stand in your way. An amazingly constructive healing process can soon begin. Don't worry about what the future holds.
If there are seven billion people on this planet, and they all have something to say. Imagine trying to keep track of all those conversations. Imagine, too, trying to decide how many of them had any real meaning. We spend a lot of time speaking to each other, and almost (though not quite) as much time listening. But true communication remains rare. How much of an understanding do you have with someone now? This week's big opportunity is a chance to share something really meaningful.
The planet we live on spins like a top. It's a roundabout ride or even - bearing in mind that, as the Earth spins, it travels round the sky - a fairground 'waltzer'. A wheel within a wheel. No wonder we get dizzy sometimes. We can't 'stop the world' but we can fix the motion sickness by finding the centre of our inner-world. Deep in your heart there is a source of tranquillity and stability. Draw a breath. Put down your anxiety and your fear for a moment. Become the fulcrum rather than the rotary blade.
Why are you putting up with you-know-what? Is it truly crucial? Or have you been talked into making a move that you may long regret? These are the questions you are asking yourself now, expecting some rather sorry answers. Yet, though your concern is understandable, it is misplaced. You have not made some dreadful error. You have correctly appraised a set of confusing options. Your logic is sound, your choice is wise and your route from here to a happier future is assured. All you have to do is resolve not to worry.
Market research. That's the thing. Ask people what they want. Analyse the answers. Find the gap in the market. Then- Success on a plate. Well, not quite. You see, people don't always say what they mean. Sometimes, they say what they think you want to hear. Or they say what they think you think they think - which is not quite the same thing, but just as misleading. In love and in money now, what you need is honesty and clarity. That means using your eyes, not your ears.You are kind, you are compassionate, you are always willing to take a long diversion from your path if it will help someone you care about. These are all qualities to be proud of. You are not, though, some kind of mythological martyr or psychological superhuman. There's a point past which you should not go. And you always know when you have reached it. Instead of saying 'OK, that's enough', though, you tend to feel bad about drawing the line. Don't do that this time. Do your best and when you can do no more, do no more.


It is hard to imagine a more simple invention than the wheel. Most of life's great innovations tend to be similarly neat and sweet. There comes a glorious moment in the creative process when, having gone through a complex list of options, we finally realise that 'all that's needed is this, or that'. It is usually so obvious that, once we've seen it, we can't imagine how we ever missed it. You're looking for a solution. Bear the above in mind and then just wait. The penny will drop and you'll soon smile.
Imagine you have been given a set of strange ingredients and challenged to make a meal out of them. But they just don't go together. Even the world's top chef would find it hard to turn these random items into something special. Now let us look at your personal recipe for happiness. It seems to be missing something. You feel confused. You could do something excellent, if only a couple of factors were different. Stop looking for the missing resource and start looking for a bright idea. You are about to find the perfect formula.
You can't walk backwards into the future. Nor can you keep casting your eyes over your shoulder. This act will cause you to stumble or, worse, it will be taken (by whatever you are so keen to make sure is not following you into the future) as a sign that, somehow, 'it is still wanted'. The tomorrow that you have long promised yourself will come one day is, in fact, here. Or at least, it is if you are prepared to treat it as such and to give it a chance to work its magic, unfettered by old expectations.
Think of the countless billions that the governments of this world spend on education. Has the Creator of the universe no respect for our economy? Why not fix things so that babies arrive on earth fully informed: literate, numerate and ready-schooled in the disciplines they will require for their eventual career? Failing that, how about a microchip inserted in the brain soon after birth? It would save a fortune. Be glad of what you don't know. It is about to lead you to a priceless discovery.It's a fact that we worry about the unknown but what about glorious moments of our discoveries?

Thursday, 23 May 2013


If we go out looking for reasons to worry, we will soon find plenty. If we actively look for things to find fault with, we can expect to find a similarly high success rate. The universe is very generous to us in this regard. Yet it is equally generous whenever we make a genuine conscious effort to find hope, inspiration and reassurance. Such things don't hide from our view. It's just that we tend to become more or less adept at recognising them, depending on our attitude. When something very powerful is happening to you or around you, it may not be immediately obvious. Don't assume, just because you can't see proof that magic is happening, that it isn't happening. It is!
Why do people sometimes get terribly upset about matters that most folk might see as trivial or irrelevant? It may be because privately, they are wrestling with something big and difficult. If that issue is so demanding, they may find it almost impossible to think clearly about it or to allow themselves even the slightest emotional reaction. So all the pent-up tension gets inadvertently channeled into an exaggerated response to some other apparent trigger. If you want the right things to happen try to see beyond the obvious.
We look back on musical trends of the past and think, 'Why did I ever like that?' We look back too, on the fashions that we were once so fond of and think, 'Why did I ever wear that?' Of course, if we wait around long enough, even yesterday's most inexcusable excesses come back in vogue. But that's not really a justification for allowing too many choices to be influenced by 'the things that people tend to think at the moment.' Your most important choices need to be based on values that are truly timeless.
It is never a good idea to try to tell someone something that they do not want to hear. Even if you think there are very good reasons why they ought to have a matter drawn to their attention, even if you feel an obligation to enlighten them, this must be weighed against the potential consequences of triggering an avalanche of emotional response. It may be the case now, that the best thing you can do is help subtly steer someone towards an understanding that, really, they need to reach on their own. Try to be patient. 
Apparently, the next big gold rush will happen on the sea bed. Precious minerals can now be harvested from deep thermal vents. This may do irreparable harm to the ocean but why worry about that as long as there is money to be made? If, one day, someone wants to be truly pioneering, they will help encourage the whole human race to free itself from a futile obsession with rocks and metals. And there is your dilemma this weekend. Do you just go along with whatever everyone else values or do you set a different standard?
Whenever we find ourselves having to think about a problem to which there is apparently no solution, we end up with a distorted view. It becomes hard, not just to handle the frustration but to contain it, so that it is directed only at the key concern. Or, to put it another way, it becomes too easy to assume that this awkward situation is just one of several scenarios. Yet events clearly demonstrate that it is only in one area of life that you face a real challenge now - and even here, all is far from hopeless.
We all feel a little vulnerable from time to time. There are many ways in which we seek to protect ourselves. Often, we take some comfort from feeling as if we have a mask to hide behind. We may attempt to alter our appearance with clothes and cosmetics or we may broadcast our attitudes and opinions, so loudly, that others simply can't see beyond these to the person we truly are at heart. Look,  to see if a conflict is being exacerbated by a sense of mistaken identity? There is scope for much healing. 
Every so often, 'New Age healers' who describe themselves as 'light workers',there is  just a little suspicious. If light workers exist, presumably, there must be 'dark workers' too. What do such people call themselves? Wouldn't a dark worker be tempted to disguise themselves as a light worker? And how can even the most sincere light worker be sure that all their deeds and thoughts are genuinely full of light? Be wary,of the possibility of doing the most harm in the very process of striving to do the most good.
Neither you nor I think of ourselves as 'perfect in every way'. Yet sometimes, we can be weak at recognising our own weaknesses! Though we see some only too clearly, there are others that entirely elude us. We may even perceive them as strengths. If someone suggests as much, try to postpone taking offence - at least long enough to first stop and consider whether they may have a point! An effort to understand better how someone else sees you, could yet result in a more rewarding relationship. 
Our hero, or heroine, is strapped to the conveyor belt, trundling towards an enormous circular saw. How can they escape? Usually, at moments like this, the TV company switches to a commercial break or a voice-over says, 'Don't miss next week's episode.' All that kind of thing is well and good when we are watching someone else's drama unfold but it is a little less easy to accept when we feel very much as if we are the person approaching that saw, you will see the real possibility of a great escape. Like an idiom  'There is no smoke without fire?' Haven't they ever heard of electronic cigarettes? These use a battery to vaporise tiny droplets of nicotine and the resulting steam looks an awful lot like smoke. And what about dry ice machines? There is no fire in them but they produce great clouds of apparent fulginosity. Whilst the very sight of something that looks like smoke is sufficient to cause alarm, it can hardly be fair to automatically assume the cause. Success involves going beyond a prejudice.
 Here is a magic wand. Wave it! Go on, just pick it up and imagine, in your mind's eye, the ideal outcome to a drama. How would you really like it all to turn out? Why is that so impossible? Sometimes, we feel defeated by factors that others see as trivial. Yet sometimes too, we can accomplish things that amaze our companions. It's all a question of perspective. There's no reason now why you can't reach the goal you have your heart set on, other perhaps, than your own doubt! So drop the doubt! Now, a very rare and special celestial alignment is taking place taking place, urging you to wake up to new ideas and possibilities and rethink what life is all about. Artists love to play with perspective. Musicians enjoy mixing sounds so that some come to the forefront and others exist as a subtle but crucial background presence. A picture alters dramatically depending on what you place where. A symphony can be transformed by allowing a different instrument to dominate. As you now look at what needs to be altered in your emotional life, try keeping the same basic components but arranging them in a different order. A little creative experimentation could prove a lot more rewarding than you think. Now, a very rare and special celestial alignment is taking place taking place, urging you to wake up to new ideas and possibilities and rethink what life is all about. Once upon a time people came to Planet Earth and searched for a deep, spiritual meaning to their lives. They asked profound questions of themselves and of the universe. They sought wisdom, even enlightenment. But then, some bright spark invented television and all that came to an end. Now, all any of us want is a movie star lifestyle. A trim figure and a trophy partner. That, and a good job... is surely all that any of us need. Isn't it? If you're looking for more, in your heart and your life... you may yet find it!They say, 'It's a dog-eat-dog world.' But dogs rarely eat other dogs. They say, 'Attack is the best form of defence.' That's not true either. Attack is just the best way to make sure that you will eventually need a defence. They say, 'We've got to look out for Number One.' But don't we keep hearing heart-warming tales of profound kindness? So, just how tough is your emotional life? It is exactly as harsh (or as hopeful) as your view of human nature. Things will work out much as you expect.  It remains important to be patient. You are wrestling with a piece of information that requires you to think hard about what previously seemed a fine plan. A degree of irritability is understandable. You ought, though, to wait a while before deciding that all is lost. More unexpected twists and turns await along the next phase of a great emotional quest. The effects of the next few developments will not just cancel out the last ones. They will leave you feeling glad that things were not quite as you thought.These are difficult times. They are also, though, wonderful times. Financial cutbacks oblige millions, all over the world, to rethink their relationship with money. The rich don't feel so rich any more. And the poor? They already know what the rich are about to find out. Money is not the be-all and end-all of everything. Love matters more. So, too, do kindness and respect. All the money in the world could not buy what you now need most. Yet you can get it! All you have to do now is look for it in the right place. Now, a very rare and special celestial alignment is taking place taking place, urging you to wake up to new ideas and possibilities and rethink what life is all about.In all the best horror films, we never see the monster. We catch only a fleeting glimpse. This is because nothing can compete with the power of our own imagination. From a hint of something scary, we will create a terrifying picture in our mind's eye. Yet, though we may get a shock when we first see a Kong or a Godzilla, we soon become familiar with the image and start to feel less terrified. You half-expect a big difficulty in your emotional lifeEven if you like to think of yourself as 'ordinary', you are blessed with an exceptionally creative mind. At one level of life at least, your reactions and ideas are anything but predictable. You love to explore new possibilities and to see situations from different angles. That's why you sometimes find yourself in trouble. You can't resist exploring avenues that others would feel inclined to steer well clear of. Are you now going too far? Of course not. You are doing what's right for your emotional life. This is right for you. Trust that..Soap operas are the ultimate example. They ramble on, from week to week and year to year. A truly successful series will go from decade to decade. There is never a grand finale. No final curtain call. No moment of comforting completion or rewarding resolution. Just one clear instruction is given to the viewer. Tune in again, this time tomorrow. And tomorrow. And tomorrow. Is that what you want your emotional life to be now? In one key area of your world it is possible to draw a line. It will take courage. But it will be worth it. Now, a very rare and special celestial alignment is taking place taking place, urging you to wake up to new ideas and possibilities and rethink what life is all about.Soap operas are the ultimate example. They ramble on, from week to week and year to year. A truly successful series will go from decade to decade. There is never a grand finale. No final curtain call. No moment of comforting completion or rewarding resolution. Just one clear instruction is given to the viewer. Tune in again, this time tomorrow. And tomorrow. And tomorrow. Is that what you want your emotional life to be now? In one key area of your world it is possible to draw a line. It will take courage. But it will be worth it. Now, a very rare and special celestial alignment is taking place taking place, urging you to wake up to new ideas and possibilities and rethink what life is all about.Do you have a reason to feel proud? You do. While all in your world may be far from perfect, you have done something smart. Had you not reached a clear decision, things would be a lot worse. You know this but you still feel inclined to be hard on yourself. That's partly because you don't want to relax your grip on a situation that needs a lot of sorting out. So sort it out. But relax as you do so. Because you've already proven that you have power. It is simply a question now of exercising it wisely. And that, you can easily do. Now, a very rare and special celestial alignment is taking place taking place, urging you to wake up to new ideas and possibilities and rethink what life is all aboutIs there no sense of ceremony left in the world? Are we all now oblivious to any activity that doesn't take place on TV? It seems as if we live in a 'so what?' society. There just isn't as much magic around as there used to be. But there is. It's just that we have to look a little harder. No great opportunity is about to bow down and offer itself to you. But if you now saddle-up your horse and ride out through the ranch of possibility, you may yet lasso a real potential change to your emotional life and bring it home behind you..We do what we do when we have to do it! We don't do it before we have to do it. And if we don't have to do it, we don't do it! Well, not the big stuff, anyhow. We may engage in all kinds of indulgent activities that seem pretty serious at the time, but when it comes to major life choices... well, they only happen when they need to. If, looking back, we can't see why they needed to that's because our memories are selective. Trust what has recently happened in your emotional life. And trust what it seems to be leading to next!
we make a great mistake whenever we assume that we now know all there is to know about how processes work. Make more allowance in your calculations for the possibilities of pleasant surprises. We all make promises to ourselves. We say, 'I'm not going to let this kind of thing happen any more.' Or, 'I will change this behaviour pattern.' Even if we are successful, our lives don't automatically improve. It may be that we have chosen to modify character traits that are really more strengths than weaknesses.
 Be wary, of a decision made some while ago, under different circumstances. There is no point in sticking with what you have started, if what you have started is no longer worth sticking with.as an example of how we are learning to manipulate the shape of the universe, it is amazing. Be aware this- that it is possible, under certain circumstances, to change the very essence of something that might once have seemed unchangeable.How dare you even think about having your cake and eating it too? Why can't you learn to live with reality?' But if you can keep baking as fast as you can keep eating - or if, having eaten your cake, you can hold on to the memory of every morsel, you may well find ways to make the seemingly impossible, possible.
If you ever wonder where your next enemy is likely to come from, take a look at some of your closest friends. Few people have more power to frustrate us (and more motivation too) than the ones who are currently close to us. All it is ever going to take is a small deterioration in the relationship, until gradually, the trust gives way to mistrust. I'm not suggesting that such a possibility is about to present itself in your life. But you should be aware of certain sensitivities and tread carefully around delicate subjects. Is it better to have a thick skin and be oblivious to insults and accusations or to have a thin skin and be sensitive, even to the slightest hint of criticism?
 We miss out on a lot when we become too hard or too soft. We need to find a way to pass from one extreme of the emotional spectrum to the other, according to the needs of the moment. It is not some permanent choice to 'toughen up' or 'let yourself be pushed around' that you must make now. It is enough just to know what is going to be best.If you only ever look on the bright side of life, when will you ever recognise much by way of contrast? Where will be the subtle shifting shapes that sometimes show themselves only in shadows? We all need a little doom and gloom. It helps to keep life poignant and bitter-sweet. Or does it? It is amazing how many people will strive so hard to come up with seemingly good reasons for wallowing in negativity. Yet there is no need for you to do any of that right now - and no advantage in it either. Hang on tight to your hope.What if everything is exactly the way that we imagine it to be? What if it all means precisely what we think it means? Supposing our understanding of the world is the only appropriate one? We might gain a glorious sense of righteousness were this ever proved to be the reality but ultimately, it would be a pretty dull state of affairs. Where would the surprises come from? What about the amazing discoveries? Be open to a different perspective  it may be highly relevant and it could yet alter everything.How long is your to-do list? Does it contain the right items, in the right order? If you don't mind me looking over your shoulder for a moment, I'd like you to show me what you've got at Number 1. A-ha! I thought so. Well, that's no good is it? Let's cross it off and replace it with the following words: 'Get. Rid. Of. The. To-do. List.' There. That's the only thing that needs to be on your agenda. And I don't mean, 'get rid of it' by diligently working your way through it. It is time for some courageous abdication of responsibility.
 We have learned many things over the years. We have learned, for example, that it is not okay to smoke in restaurants or bars. We now know not to drink while driving and to avoid fatty foods. Once, we didn't know any of this. But now the world has changed. There must have been some people who could see all along just how wrong such behaviour was. You can probably identify with them as you now look at a set of standards that seem fine to everyone else but outrageous to you. In time, this will be put right. 
Most people, most of the time, do as they are told. And if nobody is there telling them to do anything? They do whatever they imagine they might be told to do. Humans are surprisingly compliant characters, as many an invading army has discovered to its advantage, throughout history. But every so often, worms turn - and even the most passive people suddenly stand up and start to fight for their rights. If you want to engineer change in a situation that most folk seem happy enough to accept, it may yet prove possible..There is nothing wrong with generosity of spirit. It is fine to make a choice based not so much on what you want as on what might most please someone else. I do hope that I haven't recently given any impression to the contrary. But at the same time I have been (and remain) keen to convey a warning against oversensitivity to social pressure. Just remember, it is fine to give whatever you feel inspired to give but not always so fine to give way wherever you feel that perhaps you ought to give way. 

You  must  be aware that some processes are likely to take longer and prove more complicated than you might like.It seems as if life is full of things that you can't do. Either you aren't allowed to or you can't afford to or you will upset someone enormously if you do. Or may be, there is another reason. What if deep down within, the truth is that something within you really doesn't want to. It is almost as if you are hunting for reasons to pin the blame elsewhere for this reluctance. If that's the case, you really need to think about whether you are wasting your own time. The more honest you are with yourself, the more progress you will make. 
 We all have a capacity to be our own best friend - and our own worst enemy. We can think thoughts that cheer us up, raise our spirits and lead us on to great success. Or we can indulge dark, looming, lurking, fears. We can plan such pessimistic pictures of our own futures that it begins to seem as if there is no reason left to feel hopeful, ever again. What determines this? Is it dependent on the reality of a difficult situation? Not really. It is entirely a matter of choice.Allow yourself a mood that is worth being.We should always try to learn from the past. But the past isn't necessarily geared up to provide any of us with an education. It contains no classrooms or desks. It may appear to offer lecturers but these are often self-appointed, with axes to grind and biased points to make. We may discover, if we listen too carefully to those tutors, that we have studied the wrong curriculum and have gained no useful admission to any further course. Be wary today, about the conclusions you draw from yesterday. 
Understanding takes effort. It is particularly difficult to grasp how a process works or what motivates a particular person if we happen to be having an intense reaction to something that is going on. The more involved we feel, the more emotional we are, the trickier it is to stand back and apply a calm, clear, sense of perspective. Yet, usually, the more dramatic our response to a set of circumstances, the more essential it is for us to attempt to observe them objectively. You can at least do that.
Are people like sheep? Well, they don't grow woolly coats! Nor (other than at festival times) do they tend to spend many hours hanging around in fields. But they definitely do have a tendency to let themselves be herded. You need to look at why you are following a trend or going along with a set of ideas that others seem happy enough to accept. Does all that amount to a good enough reason for you to comply to? You aren't 'people'. You are a person, a unique individual. It is time to assert that.
Let us suppose that it is all 'written'. Every aspect of every life, yours and mine included, has been planned in advance down to the last detail. We have no say in anything. We are just tortured, occasionally, by circumstances that make it briefly appear as if our choices may count or as if our free will is truly free. Wouldn't that be the meanest, most miserable trick that the universe could ever play on itself - or any aspect of itself. This world is not so cruel. You really do have a say in how the situation turns out.
What is intuition? Does it simply involve 'having a good feeling' about someone or something? There may be many other reasons why we get such a feeling and not all of them are necessarily good! We sometimes confuse each other. We may, for example, reward actions that we approve of or express our distaste for behaviour that upsets us. The feeling we communicate at such times can easily be misinterpreted. It is important to know the difference between playing a hunch and playing to the gallery.


Wednesday, 22 May 2013

With seconds to spare, the heroes roll under the closing shutter door, just before it would all have been too late and they might have remained trapped in the underground car park for ever! Or some such thing. It is as if we are hard-wired to be responsive to tales of action and adventure. The slightest suggestion of excitement, the merest hint of drama and we are suddenly giving a matter our full attention, even if just moments earlier it hardly interested us. But you mustn't let that distort your judgement.
When we hear on the news that someone has been arrested and charged with a crime, can we automatically conclude that they must be guilty of it? If so, what are judges, courts and juries for? Are they just a rubber-stamping process intended to confirm the good judgement of the arresting officers? You and I are sophisticated and civilised. We know better than to fall into such a trap. Yet where else in your world might you now be leaping to a conclusion on the basis of insufficient information?  
To have an opinion is, to invite someone else with a different opinion to disagree with you. You may believe that you are right. You may even actually be right! But why is your opponent, with their equally strong belief, going to feel it differently? That's just one good reason among many, why it is always better to steer clear of profound, passionate, ideas and ideals. The more fluid a view of the world we can take, the less conflict we are likely to enter into. And you can afford to relax now. 
 Some people far prefer to talk than to act. Why actually do something when you can just have a conversation about it? Also, by having that conversation, you can broaden the field of consultation. Plus, if there are any official bodies to consult, permissions to seek or agreements to acquire, the more everything becomes subject to prolonged public debate, the greater the chance that all that will happen. Of course, what won't happen is the thing that needs to happen. You are not contemplating a short-cut, are you?  
Whenever we suspect that someone thinks badly of us, we become strongly tempted to give them good reason for their attitude - and we find it all but impossible to continue to extend a sense of goodwill towards our suspected critic. Yet some slights can be imagined. Some arguments are not really as intense as they appear. Give someone the benefit of the doubt today, and take a hopeful view of a situation that you could easily allow yourself to feel intimidated by. An attitude of negativity really isn't justified.
 What year is it? Can you name the president of the USA? And where do you live? With questions like these, experts sometimes have to make a rough and ready assessment of somebody's state of mental clarity. As long as they can give clear answers, it hardly matters how off-the-wall they may be in other respects. Yet the true gauge of sanity is a little more complex and subtle. Even if you can't fully articulate your reasons for making a particular choice today, it doesn't automatically follow that you are wrong. 
 A movement is gaining momentum. An idea is catching on. Where once nobody seemed remotely interested in a particular possibility, now everyone is paying attention. So, can you conclude from this that the right things are under discussion and the most appropriate decisions are being made? Well, here's another question. Are the songs that reach Number 1 always the very best records? Are the best-selling novels always the best written? Just because something is popular, we can't assume that it must have merit. You have already done most of what needs to be done - you have persuaded those who need to hear the arguments. And if you repeat yourself, there is a slight risk that you may alienate the very folk whose co-operation you have just attained. Or perhaps, in making your case again, you may persuade someone to think about it again - and, in the process, reach a different conclusion. Just to be on the safe side, curb your enthusiasm. Be ready to offer explanation if it is requested but be discreet and just quietly confident  now.
That's one small step for a man, one giant leap for mankind.' With these words Neil Armstrong first set foot on the moon. He must have thought long and hard about what he was going to say. It is, depending on how you care to look at it, either a terrible omission or a chillingly prophetic slip that caused him use such a masculine form of wording for, to this day, no woman has stepped on the moon. It is so important when pioneering, to strive to set the right precedent. What might you be overlooking  now?
Are you being asked to supply more than you can deliver? Are somewhat unreasonable requests (or even demands) being made of you? Or does it simply seem that way the more you think about a set of frustrating circumstances? You might feel a whole lot better about almost everything in your world, if only one particular source of stress were alleviated. Despite your many misgivings, this is a much more feasible proposition than you might imagine. Allow yourself to entertain a little optimism now.
We all want to do our bit to help create a better world. That's wonderful. But what if we become so enthusiastic that it affects our judgement and, in the very act of trying to defend what we perceive to be right, we end up doing something inexcusably wrong? How can doing a bad thing for a good cause, make that bad thing so much as one iota less bad? It is very important to follow your highest code of personal ethics now, regardless of the pressure or temptation to justify a dodgy compromise. Some people, it seems, get it wrong, no matter how hard they try to get it right. It is as if there is something that they just don't understand. They make errors of judgement without even judging themselves as having made so much as a slip. What are you supposed to say to such people? Is there really any point in trying to say anything at all? Or must you just work around the edges of whatever mess they appear to be creating, doing your best to limit the damage? Try to be graceful. World is strange mix of good and bad!
 THERE ARE ALWAYS  TWO SIDES OF A COIN. IT IS UP TO US WHERE WE FOCUS,WHETHER WE FOCUS ON BRIGHTER SIDE OR NEGATIVE ASPECTS DEPENDS ON OUR THINKING. LIFE IS TO CARE AND SHARE AND EXPANDING FOR JOY, ABUNDANCE,MINDFULNESS, COMPASSION AND WELL BEING. THERE  MAY BE PERSON OR RELATIONSHIPS IN OUR LIFE,WHO HAVE CHANGED OUR LIFE IN MANY WAYS!

Tuesday, 21 May 2013

Actions speak louder than words. And when actions are not performed, when things don't happen, then we are being sent a message via megaphone. Don't look today, at what is being accomplished - pay heed to what is seemingly being ignored. What conclusion can you draw from this? How does a key relationship need to change in order to embrace a more realistic expectation of what someone else understands - or perhaps simply fails to understand? That's how to find a constructive way forward.
When we smile, we inspire other people to smile too, but negativity is contagious as well. If we communicate a sense of mistrust, we will subtly encourage others to feel more wary. If we express our anger and frustration at the way the world seems to be, we will only encourage an outpouring in sympathy from others who are equally aggrieved. That's why we ought to be so careful about what we say and do. Don't take in (or take on) someone else's bad attitude today. Generate a good one of your own.
We define our sense of self by our tastes and preferences. We further create an understanding of our identity by relating very strongly to the family we grew up in, the culture we were born into, the job we now do, the place we now live and the people to whom we are closest. All these factors may be pieces of a jigsaw but none on their own give the whole picture. The biggest part of you is simply a heart that wants to beat, in safety, as an expression of love. Do more to meet that need now and all else that you require will come.
Bubbles don't conduct feasibility studies before they start to expand. Those soapy molecules, as they start to fill with air, don't shout, 'Hang on, this could be dangerous. We probably haven't got very long before we reach an unsustainable level of surface tension and then explode.' They just carry on getting bigger and bigger. To the untrained eye of the casual observer it is easy to imagine that the process will carry on forever. But if you want to stop something from happening now, you will be surprised how easily you can do this.
It is one thing to enjoy the thrill of the chase. It is another to be so addicted to the adrenaline rush that you start chasing after things you don't even really want to get. When, for example, we are so excited about the birds we can see in the bush that we lose all interest in the birds we may have in our hand, it is probably time to stop and ask whether we are really respecting the contents of our aviary. Be wary now of a temptation to re-enact a battle you have actually long since fought and won.
We've all seen the scene. A stranger walks through the swing doors. Every head in the tavern turns. Is this the outlaw gang leader? Or a new naive arrival who can be plied with cheap whisky and fleeced at poker? Oh, the joy of the West and the way it was won. Yet for all the edge of danger that any wild situation may present, especially if it has ill-defined rules and negotiable hierarchies of power, there's a kind of magic that can only emerge in such chaotic circumstances. Don't stifle all chance of that.
Some things in life, as I'm sure you have noticed, are sent to try us. We find ourselves in situations that we can hardly believe that we are now obliged to face, and we think, 'What have I done to deserve this?' Instead of bemoaning our lot or cursing the cruel fates that have driven us into this position, we might be wiser to stop and ask, 'What can I learn from this? How can I turn these circumstances to my advantage?' Now I recognise that this philosophy is much easier to preach than to practise. But it is still worth a try 
 Books and videos are full of dramatic interludes - car chases, bank robberies and narrow escapes. Then, there are all those betrayals, agonising disappointments, simmering feuds, dangerous actions born of some crazed lust for revenge. Why are they so popular? Because real life isn't really like that! If it were, we would queue up for a chance to escape into the idyllic world of coffee mornings and shopping trips. So, from this we can conclude that real life isn't really as tense as imaginary life.
 'Innocent until proven guilty.' That was one of the first principles of law back in the olden days - in the era long before trial by media. These days, as we all know, it is sufficient for someone to be publicly accused of a crime and for lots of other people to then stand around nodding knowingly, saying: 'Oh yes. I always thought they looked dodgy.' That's all fair, isn't it? Well, of course, it isn't. Nor can it be fair for you to apply similar principles of rough justice to a delicate situation that deserves careful consideration. 
Some matters deserve much more careful consideration. The facts that you must now weigh up deserve just such respect,you must have clear idea of others intentions and presentation as there are other considerations besides appearance and performance.So many people, over so many years, have dreamed and schemed of ways to create a better world. A utopia. A society where everything (and everyone) is fairer. What's wrong with all this idealistic aspiration? Nothing, other than the possibility that it may lead to such an intoxicating dream that all sense of reality goes flying out of the window. Just be a little careful that your greatest, most inspiring hope doesn't dazzle you with its brilliance to the point where you can no longer see a fact that ought to be faced.
They make themselves such easy targets, those politicians. They strut about with their opinions, prescribing cures for all the ills of society. In their quest to attract voters, how can they help but also attract the attention of others who attract passionate disagreement too? True change rarely comes from the top down. When enough ordinary people all naturally share an idea, sooner or later, the so-called leaders simply have to listen. You are now caught up in a campaign that is destined for surprising success.

Monday, 20 May 2013

 Even if you like to think of yourself as 'ordinary', you are blessed with an exceptionally creative mind. At one level of life at least, your reactions and ideas are anything but predictable. You love to explore new possibilities and to see situations from different angles. That's why you sometimes find yourself in trouble. You can't resist exploring avenues that others would feel inclined to steer well clear of. Are you now going too far? Of course not. You are doing what's right for your emotional life. This is right for you. Trust that. 
Who or what is 'the real you'? Who are you when you are not trying to 'be' anyone? Or when you are not feeling obliged to play out a role based on the expectation of someone you have a relationship with? We get so caught up with the image of ourselves that we feel we ought to portray and the things we can sense others want from us that we lose track of our truest, deepest, inner-identity. Yet something, right at the essence of your heart now, wants you to acknowledge a need that it is almost too easy to dismiss.
Remember all those religious stories about cities under siege? Whilst I would not presume to have the ultimate interpretation of any such tale, there surely must have been some intention to signal a symbolic message. If you put yourself in a highly defensive position, then no matter how well you keep up your guard, sooner or later, something or someone will get through it. Somewhere in your world now, there's a determination to protect a situation that has long since gone stale. Maybe it's time for that campaign to fail. Strong leaders make many enemies and admirers during their years in power. But they don't care. They believe passionately in their policies. All strong characters attract criticism. You now need to demonstrate your commitment to a particular principle. You can't expect this to make you universally popular. But nor should you be ashamed of what now means so much to you. This can brings the chance to make a big leap of faith. Never mind what others think, follow what you feel and keep your nerve.  
Soap operas are the ultimate example. They ramble on, from week to week and year to year. A truly successful series will go from decade to decade. There is never a grand finale. No final curtain call. No moment of comforting completion or rewarding resolution. Just one clear instruction is given to the viewer. Tune in again, this time tomorrow. And tomorrow. And tomorrow. Is that what you want your emotional life to be now? In one key area of your world it is possible to draw a line. It will take courage. But it will be worth it. 
In the days before the internet, I remember hunting, for years, for a particular recording of a special piece of music. Every time I went to a record shop, I would scour the shelves. One day, I actually found what I was looking for. It gave me such a sense of triumph. I took it home, played it, enjoyed it as much as I had imagined I would but still, next time I went to a record shop, it was as if there was something missing from my life. Quests can be addictive like that. Might you now be looking for something you have already found? You may not be feeling exceptionally ecstatic. It is, indeed, quite possible that a mood of intense aggravation has begun to descend upon you. This won't be helped by continual exposure to astrological forecasts explaining that great, joyous, life-changing developments are happening as we speak. It probably seems to you as if a key situation is messy, and getting messier. Give it a little longer. The true picture is much more inspiring, and it will soon make itself very clear. Meanwhile, be philosophical about a little mess!
 Do you have a reason to feel proud? You do. While all in your world may be far from perfect, you have done something smart. Had you not reached a clear decision, things would be a lot worse. You know this but you still feel inclined to be hard on yourself. That's partly because you don't want to relax your grip on a situation that needs a lot of sorting out. So sort it out. But relax as you do so. Because you've already proven that you have power. It is simply a question now of exercising it wisely. And that, you can easily do.Appearances can be deceptive. But then, so can disappearances! Often, we think something has gone forever from our lives only to discover that it has been in hiding. That may be a cause for celebration or a reason for great concern. Not all absences are undesirable. But then, not all presences are pleasing! This is time,puts you back in touch with some old friends. It presents you with the chance to choose whether you fully want to renew a connection, or sever it. Don't be fooled by how things seem. You CAN choose.
 Is there no sense of ceremony left in the world? Are we all now oblivious to any activity that doesn't take place on TV? It seems as if we live in a 'so what?' society. There just isn't as much magic around as there used to be. But there is. It's just that we have to look a little harder. No great opportunity is about to bow down and offer itself to you. But if you now saddle-up your horse and ride out through the ranch of possibility, you may yet lasso a real potential change to your emotional life and bring it home behind you.Some of the world's most civilised cities were once little more than shanty towns. Often, their initial growth was triggered by some kind of a gold rush. Fortune hunters would flock from all over the world. Only slowly did fair rules for co-existence emerge. It took even longer to find credible ways to police such places. Yet, for all their danger, such frontier towns had a certain attractive edge. The question in your life now, is how to keep alive a pioneering spirit, even if some checks and balances must be applied..'This is going to hurt me more than it hurts you.' That's what sadistic schoolteachers used to say before launching themselves into an act that today, would be considered despicable child abuse. Their statement, though, may not have been quite as hypocritical as it sounded. Whenever we knowingly cause pain to others, no matter how justified we believe our actions to be, we inflict far more damage on ourselves, you have a choice. You can be 'right' or you can be 'big'. Be big. Be sympathetic. Be kind.
We do what we do when we have to do it! We don't do it before we have to do it. And if we don't have to do it, we don't do it! Well, not the big stuff, anyhow. We may engage in all kinds of indulgent activities that seem pretty serious at the time, but when it comes to major life choices... well, they only happen when they need to. If, looking back, we can't see why they needed to that's because our memories are selective. Trust what has recently happened in your emotional life. And trust what it seems to be leading to next! Comfort zones? We all have them and we all, reasonably enough, prefer to stay within them wherever possible. But there are some gains in life that can only ever be made by risking (or indeed, actually experiencing) a degree of discomfort. If we don't set ourselves challenges, how do we expand our horizons? And when life sets challenges for us, it may just be a little churlish to complain. Try to recognise, with gratitude, the opportunity that you are being presented with today.