Sunday, 24 January 2016
Thursday, 21 January 2016
Dear person reading this,
I hope your day has been going well, if not, I hope it gets better You are an amazing person who will inspire others to do great things so keep up the hard work. I know you may feel unimportant or insecure at the moment but know that you are a beautiful human being inside and out and you are important !
I hope your day has been going well, if not, I hope it gets better You are an amazing person who will inspire others to do great things so keep up the hard work. I know you may feel unimportant or insecure at the moment but know that you are a beautiful human being inside and out and you are important !
Wednesday, 20 January 2016
YOU GET BACK WHAT YOU GIVE
Why we seemingly invite negative moods or stressful experiences into our lives. It is almost as if we punish ourselves.Make amends and you can make a difference, vastly improving the here and now of your heart.
People, it seems, get addicted to drama.When the mist of an intense mood descends, we may be waiting a long time till the sunshine of new hope helps clear it away.
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'Happiness runs in a circular motion
'Feel the spirit of the universe,and life will naturally take you where you need to be.
'Happiness runs in a circular motion. We should all be aware that joy is available to every heart at every moment. It may circle around us, being one moment behind and the next in front, but it is never far. To claim it, feel it, bask in it and be healed by it, all we ever have to do is choose it. You know what you need to choose
Can other people really make us happy? Or sad? Perhaps we sometimes give them too much credit or attribute them with too much blame. Feelings only exist in one place... our own hearts. I cannot feel what you feel, nor can you feel what I feel. We can, of course, experience complementary emotions. We can also 'feel for' each other. But nobody can 'make' anyone feel anything.
Peace, love and harmony.' That's what we want, isn't it? What else could we aspire to?. When our personal lives are contented and secure, we hardly care what other troubles we may face. With the right people by our side, we can solve any problem.
'Happiness runs in a circular motion. We should all be aware that joy is available to every heart at every moment. It may circle around us, being one moment behind and the next in front, but it is never far. To claim it, feel it, bask in it and be healed by it, all we ever have to do is choose it. You know what you need to choose
Can other people really make us happy? Or sad? Perhaps we sometimes give them too much credit or attribute them with too much blame. Feelings only exist in one place... our own hearts. I cannot feel what you feel, nor can you feel what I feel. We can, of course, experience complementary emotions. We can also 'feel for' each other. But nobody can 'make' anyone feel anything.
Peace, love and harmony.' That's what we want, isn't it? What else could we aspire to?. When our personal lives are contented and secure, we hardly care what other troubles we may face. With the right people by our side, we can solve any problem.
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF!
The heart goes for a spin and the chemicals released make you feel happy, relaxed, excited, completely lost in the thoughts of your partner. There is a desire to please the partner, one tends to almost become like an extension of the spouse. This leads to a loss of individuality and self identity . The next phase is the feeling of the original identity not being accepted or given importance, The problem starts when one tries to please the opposite person, thus displaying qualities which may not be their original identity. Then comes the rebel phase, where the person wants to be accepted for their true self."
"The choices could be as simple as which movie to watch, which restaurant to go to, which furniture to buy for home, but it is here that your own identity tends to get compromised. It then spills on to which friend circle to have, the clothes you should wear, etc., things that are so personal to the sense of self that the one who is adjusting will want to prove their sense of `I'.
"A perfect relationship needs to be a blend of two lifestyles, a little bit of compromise from both, lots of together time as well as having an individual life too. However, when one partner keeps giving in to the demands of the other, you will see that the boundaries getting blurred; they don't have time for their friends or for themselves. They will change their routine, give up their hobbies and interests and be occupied only with what their partner likes and dislikes.
This is also possible in a relationship where one of the partner is totally in control or acts as a martyr and creates guilt. Low self-esteem, lack of positive belief and a need to be liked and accepted are other reasons for a partner losing their identity in a relationship. Develop your own set of friends, create separate activities, work areas and spaces to come out of the comfort zone and dependency.
"Harish Shetty suggests ways to deal with this, "Be yourself. Share your thoughts and feelings early with your partner and those close to you. When your dignity is assaulted, wake up. Let the time between thought and action shrink. Chase your small wants and desires and do not put all your emotions in one basket of your spouse. Take a stand effectively on a conflict and provide space to your spouse to change, express and share."
Build your confidence and accept yourself while trying to attain your own identity.Unconditional love is about accepting the person for who they are and their choices. So appreciate your own individuality and uniqueness while also accepting the opposite person for who they are.Don't grudge or criticise the other person for their choices, since it will rob your partner of confidence.
"The choices could be as simple as which movie to watch, which restaurant to go to, which furniture to buy for home, but it is here that your own identity tends to get compromised. It then spills on to which friend circle to have, the clothes you should wear, etc., things that are so personal to the sense of self that the one who is adjusting will want to prove their sense of `I'.
"A perfect relationship needs to be a blend of two lifestyles, a little bit of compromise from both, lots of together time as well as having an individual life too. However, when one partner keeps giving in to the demands of the other, you will see that the boundaries getting blurred; they don't have time for their friends or for themselves. They will change their routine, give up their hobbies and interests and be occupied only with what their partner likes and dislikes.
This is also possible in a relationship where one of the partner is totally in control or acts as a martyr and creates guilt. Low self-esteem, lack of positive belief and a need to be liked and accepted are other reasons for a partner losing their identity in a relationship. Develop your own set of friends, create separate activities, work areas and spaces to come out of the comfort zone and dependency.
"Harish Shetty suggests ways to deal with this, "Be yourself. Share your thoughts and feelings early with your partner and those close to you. When your dignity is assaulted, wake up. Let the time between thought and action shrink. Chase your small wants and desires and do not put all your emotions in one basket of your spouse. Take a stand effectively on a conflict and provide space to your spouse to change, express and share."
Build your confidence and accept yourself while trying to attain your own identity.Unconditional love is about accepting the person for who they are and their choices. So appreciate your own individuality and uniqueness while also accepting the opposite person for who they are.Don't grudge or criticise the other person for their choices, since it will rob your partner of confidence.
Everybody needs someone who can make them laugh when they think that they'll never smile again.but everyone is not that lucky to have a person like that.Everyone needs to find that kind of hope and happiness within themselves. It's never good to depend on someone else for hope or happiness. Find it within and then share it with others.
Hope has no limit,dream has no border ,nothing wrong in hoping or waiting,we will never know sometimes impossibles ,unattainable happen like miracles. Give up only when all hope is lost.
Life is like a puzzle never waste time trying to place people where they don't fit. In trying time don't quite trying never give up keep trying it's a part of our everyday situation.
Life is like a puzzle never waste time trying to place people where they don't fit. In trying time don't quite trying never give up keep trying it's a part of our everyday situation.
We are controlled by our way of thinking and past experiences. It is hard because we cannot escape our past. We learn to live with it and move on. We are ultimately responsible to ourselves but at times we tend to feel the need to help others. This is OK as long as it does not interfere with our priorities. The minute it does it becomes counter productive. At this point a decision has to be made that will determine the final outcome.
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