We tend to forget things rapidly. It is good as well as bad too! Good because if we do not delete old, how can we feed our mind with new. Secondly if we remember each and every thing our mental balance will be disturbed because all life experiences are not good, so better to forget and move on. We need to introspect events on daily or weekly basis. Filtering the thought process and getting ready to proceed.
Looking good, doing good and having all good around us is human need which is natural as good things have attraction. The most difficult phase of our life is : How to understand and get along with people you love and you work with. Perhaps it is the most difficult job in the world. How to convince others our point of view, our way of thinking. Instead of condemning people, let's try to understand them. Let's try to figure out why they do what they do. That's a lot more intriguing and profitable too than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. "To know all is to forgive all." As Dr. Johnson said: "God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days."here is one longing - almost as deep, almost as imperious, as the desire for food or sleep - which is seldom gratified. It is what Freud calls "the desire to be great." It is what Dewey calls the "desire to be important."
We usually spend about 95 percent of our time thinking about ourselves. Try leaving a friendly trail of little sparks of gratitude on your daily trips. You will be surprised how this will set small flames of friendship that will be rose beacons on your next visit. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise," and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime - repeat them years after you have forgotten them. Why talk about what we want? That is childish. Absurd. Of course, you are interested in what you want. You are eternally interested in it. But no one else is. The rest of us are just like you: we are interested in what we want .One secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from others perspective as well as from your own." Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than
your problems. A person's toothache means more to that person than a famine in China which kills a million
people. A boil on person's neck interests one more than forty earthquakes in Africa. Think of that the next time you start a conversation. This is law of human conduct. If we obey that law, we shall almost never get into trouble. In fact, that law, if obeyed, will bring us countless friends and constant happiness. But the very instant we break the law, we shall get into endless troubles.
Most of us are prejudiced and biased. Most of us are blighted with preconceived notions, with jealousy, suspicion, fear, envy and pride. And most people don't want to change their minds about their religion or their haircut or communism or their favorite movie star. We sometimes find ourselves changing our minds without any resistance or heavy emotion, but if we are told we are wrong, we resent the imputation and harden our hearts. The little word "my" is the most important one in human affairs, and to reckon with it is the beginning of wisdom. It has the same force whether it is "my" dinner, "my" dog, and "my" house, or "my" father, "my" country, and "my" God. We not only resent the imputation that our watch is wrong, or our car shabby, but that our conception of the canals of Mars, of the pronunciation of "Epictetus," of the medicinal value of salicin etc.We like to continue to believe what we have been accustomed to accept as true, and the resentment aroused when doubt is cast upon any of our assumptions leads us to seek every manner of excuse for clinging to it. Remember the old proverb: "By fighting you never get enough, but
by yielding you get more than you expected."
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