We all fare better when we are able to resist overwhelming urges and powerful passions. If particular people cause us to feel upset, the very moment we think about them, it is surely better not to think about them. If situations cause us distress the moment they come into our minds, should we make our minds go blank? Well, here's the thing. We either have to start hiding - or we have to find a way to retrain our brain. If you can now bring yourself to see the positive in something negative, you can yet change everything. 
Small children like to hear the same bedtime story, night in, night out. It makes them feel comforted and reassured. There is a small child somewhere, within us all, so this may be why, as adults, we often act out the same old dramas, time and time again. Unconsciously we are seeking security and stability. It doesn't do us much good, though, if the roles we end up playing are counter productive. A long-established routine now needs to be replaced by a new rhythm based on a new attitude and expectation.
 There is a point on which you do not wish to give way. There is a sense of determination that you are extremely reluctant to let go of. You can see the sense in trying to establish a compromise, but your emotions are not at all inclined to follow your intellect down the road of reasonable give and take. Bend a little. You won't break. Mellow a bit. You won't melt. Or rather, you will! Once you lose that strange rigidity of attitude that is  dominating your mood, you will soften and bubble away with a rare kind of happiness. Better to stay calm in such situations. Another month, another balancing act. Another reason to think twice. Another pitfall to avoid. Another complication to take into account. Another precarious arrangement to protect.