We often discover that we can do for others, things we might never be able to do for ourselves. When we act out of genuine generosity, it is almost as if we develop a saintly quality. We discover the great strength that can only ever stem from deep humility. We develop the real precious perspective that only compassion can inspire.
People misunderstand each other more often than they realise. Some cynics even argue that, when two individuals believe themselves to be in complete agreement, it is probably because neither fully 'gets' what the other is envisaging.Imagine if we could see into each other's minds. We could keep no secrets from each other. Our deepest motives and most passionate desires would be obvious to all. How much fun do you think that would be? It's the not knowing that makes life so exciting!
 It is wrong to assume that you are being selfless if you do what someone else wants you to do and selfish if you do only what appeals to you. It is possible to be selfish for selfless reasons... and the other way round. If you don't honour your own priorities, attempt to identify and meet your own needs and generally put yourself in a position of greater comfort, you lose your ability to offer others the unique insight that you can supply only when you are strong.