We often discover that we can do for others, things we might never be able to do for ourselves. When we act out of genuine generosity, it is almost as if we develop a saintly quality. We discover the great strength that can only ever stem from deep humility. We develop the real precious perspective that only compassion can inspire. Still it is wrong to assume that you are being selfless if you do what someone else wants you to do and selfish if you do only what appeals to you. It is possible to be selfish for selfless reasons... and the other way round. If you don't honour your own priorities, attempt to identify and meet your own needs and generally put yourself in a position of greater comfort, you lose your ability to offer others the unique insight that you can supply only when you are strong. What those closest to you need now is your strength.