Is it selfish to get yourself out of trouble while leaving someone else, who is in just as much trouble, behind? Only if you are not intending to go back for them! To set them free, you must first free yourself and you had better have more than a good intention. You will need to go back and actually try your best to rescue them. But under such circumstances, what other option may there be? A vital choice must be made. Don't be influenced by what looks or doesn't look 'noble', just focus on what truly is the right thing to do.
Mechanics, bankers, medical professionals and software developers all have a special language of their own. They use buzzwords and phrases that make no sense to the uninitiated. When the rest of us hear all this jargon, we get a bit confused and thus allow ourselves to be blinded by science. Meanwhile, the so-called experts revel in the apparent exclusivity of their special interest group. As you now wrestle to understand an important matter, terminology is your only barrier. It is time to learn some new words.
Where are your enemies? What are they doing? How are they plotting your downfall? Or do they even exist? Are they merely the figment of a fearful imagination? Perhaps you have nothing to be afraid of and no reason to interpret recent difficulties as evidence of some cruel conspiracy. Shake off the idea that you are being got at or that someone is working to make life difficult for you. You are surrounded by people who would be only too happy to supply support, as long as you treat them as friends.
Even the most placid and well-adjusted people in the world, have inner-triggers; sore points, sensitive spots and 'psychological buttons'. When particular topics are raised or when certain individuals speak to us in a challenging tone of voice, we lose our sense of balance and common sense vanishes with it. We find ourselves making decisions that are based more on an intense emotional reaction than on some careful appraisal of the facts. It doesn't matter who or what is goading you now, you just must find a way to rise above it.
Some people know how to press our buttons. No matter how calm we may feel, they just have to do or say something and we find ourselves getting wound up. They don't do this deliberately. They don't sit around thinking, 'How can I make so-and-so angry or exasperated?' It is just that something about them rubs us up the wrong way. We then have to find, within ourselves, an ability to rise above the irritation that we feel. Situations can do this to us too - but only if we let them. Your challenge, is not to let them.
We all make mistakes. But we make much bigger errors when we allow those mistakes to undermine our confidence. You may have been wrong about one thing recently but that doesn't mean you are wrong about everything else. Indeed, the very fact that you are so conscious of your own potential to jump too hastily to a conclusion is a strong suggestion that you will be extra careful the next time a decision needs to be reached. This is all the more reason to have faith in your own powers of analysis at the moment. All actions have consequences. All decisions have advantages and disadvantages. If we don't stop and think before we implement a plan, we may end up kicking ourselves later. Yet if we stop and think too long, we may take no action at all and that may prove most regrettable. Normally, you find it easy to be brave. You are good at acting on impulse and you usually find that you had good reason to trust and follow your intuition. Recent events have eroded your confidence to the point where you are hesitant. Ignore that doubt.
If you eat something and it disagrees with you, you are most unlikely to ever eat it again. But what if you meet someone and they disagree with you? It may not be so easy to simply decide to cut that individual right out of your life. It is particularly difficult to establish a relationship of trust and co-operation with a person who you feel has let you down or shown you a great lack of respect. If you give them a chance to do that to you all over again, doesn't that make you a fool? Not if you remain guarded at the same time as you show willing..
'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.' So goes the old saying. The implication here is that, while we may be able to blame someone else the first time they let us down, if we put ourselves in the position where they can do the same thing again, we have only ourselves to blame. This is a good, wise, rule but to every rule there is an exception. There are times when, if we are too draconian, we cut ourselves off from precious opportunities. Be wary of an offer by all means now, but don't slam a door shut.
If you don't stand a chance of winning, what is the point of competing? If your destiny has already been decided by some fateful force, why strive to change it? The real question you need to ask this week is, are you beaten before you begin? To this there can only be one answer. Of course you aren't! You will end up begin beaten only if you don't begin in the first place. Though you may have to work fairly hard to get where you want to end up but your aspiration is entirely attainable. You can yet show the future who is boss.
People are forever making journeys. Whether our expeditions take us to the ends of the earth or just down to the store and back, our lives revolve around them. Without some kind of reliable ability to get from A to B, we soon start to feel frustrated. Those physical excursions are not the only travels that we undertake. Mentally, emotionally, sometimes even socially, we are always trying to move upwards and onwards. Several factors have recently been impeding your progress. Soon you will have much more room to manoeuvre.
We all, to some extent, see what we want to see and believe what we choose to believe. By and large, this works fine for us. We are all happy enough living with our own versions of reality until, or unless, this is challenged. If, for example, someone says, 'You are wrong about everything you think you feel.' Or if circumstances prove so stressful that you start to doubt your own view of the world. There is room in your world now for two different ways to look at one situation. Neither is wholly right or wholly wrong.
How can two people, in one situation, see the same set of circumstances so differently? Because they each have different beliefs and opinions. These colour our vision more dramatically than we realise. Someone else is now looking at precisely the same situation as you, yet they are drawing very different conclusions. That doesn't mean they are wrong and you are right - or vice versa. It simply means you must somehow find a way to agree to differ. A small gesture on your part today could count for a lot.
We all know the scene. We have watched it unfold in a thousand movies. As the Sun hangs high in the noonday sky, folk flock from the saloon to line the dusty main street and watch the two gunslingers face each other off. As the seconds tick by in the countdown to the duel, one of the cowboys looks at the other and says, 'This town ain't big enough for the both of us.' Somewhere in your world now, a showdown of a similar nature is taking place. Who will win? Why, if you stand your ground, you will..
What happens when two people of the stand a good chance of getting what they want ? If one of those wants something that another person really wants them not to have, surely that's a stalemate? You may not now be at loggerheads with someone else who shares your area, but you do fear that someone somewhere is keen to prevent the very progress that you most desire. Even so, you can make it.
Great experts can often make even the trickiest tasks seem somehow effortless. With years of practice under their belt, they can undertake exercises that might seem overwhelmingly impossible to the likes of you and me. But in one key area of life, you have gained plenty of experience. You are a great expert. You have no reason to doubt yourself or your ability to make a positive difference in a sensitive situation. The challenge you face now, is one that you are perfectly placed to rise to successfully.
Think of a frog on a lily pad. It sits perfectly still. You might easily assume that it is asleep. A fly passes by and in a twinkling, the frog's tongue shoots out to catch it. Where is the stress, the effort and the energy being expended in that process? In a similar way, you need to be poised and ready for an opportunity when it presents itself. That doesn't mean that you need to race around making endless complicated preparations. It just means that you have to trust your moment will arise and then relax till it does.
Society requires us to be polite. We are taught from an early age to pick our words carefully and to phrase our questions delicately. We must say please and thank you. We must not speak openly about matters that may cause embarrassment. We must disguise our most intense emotions and pretend that we like people, even if we don't. Whilst a few of us break these rules, the majority strive to stick to them. So how can we tell what anyone else is really thinking or feeling? You will get some clues. Pay heed to them.
Mechanics, bankers, medical professionals and software developers all have a special language of their own. They use buzzwords and phrases that make no sense to the uninitiated. When the rest of us hear all this jargon, we get a bit confused and thus allow ourselves to be blinded by science. Meanwhile, the so-called experts revel in the apparent exclusivity of their special interest group. As you now wrestle to understand an important matter, terminology is your only barrier. It is time to learn some new words.
Where are your enemies? What are they doing? How are they plotting your downfall? Or do they even exist? Are they merely the figment of a fearful imagination? Perhaps you have nothing to be afraid of and no reason to interpret recent difficulties as evidence of some cruel conspiracy. Shake off the idea that you are being got at or that someone is working to make life difficult for you. You are surrounded by people who would be only too happy to supply support, as long as you treat them as friends.
Even the most placid and well-adjusted people in the world, have inner-triggers; sore points, sensitive spots and 'psychological buttons'. When particular topics are raised or when certain individuals speak to us in a challenging tone of voice, we lose our sense of balance and common sense vanishes with it. We find ourselves making decisions that are based more on an intense emotional reaction than on some careful appraisal of the facts. It doesn't matter who or what is goading you now, you just must find a way to rise above it.
Some people know how to press our buttons. No matter how calm we may feel, they just have to do or say something and we find ourselves getting wound up. They don't do this deliberately. They don't sit around thinking, 'How can I make so-and-so angry or exasperated?' It is just that something about them rubs us up the wrong way. We then have to find, within ourselves, an ability to rise above the irritation that we feel. Situations can do this to us too - but only if we let them. Your challenge, is not to let them.
We all make mistakes. But we make much bigger errors when we allow those mistakes to undermine our confidence. You may have been wrong about one thing recently but that doesn't mean you are wrong about everything else. Indeed, the very fact that you are so conscious of your own potential to jump too hastily to a conclusion is a strong suggestion that you will be extra careful the next time a decision needs to be reached. This is all the more reason to have faith in your own powers of analysis at the moment. All actions have consequences. All decisions have advantages and disadvantages. If we don't stop and think before we implement a plan, we may end up kicking ourselves later. Yet if we stop and think too long, we may take no action at all and that may prove most regrettable. Normally, you find it easy to be brave. You are good at acting on impulse and you usually find that you had good reason to trust and follow your intuition. Recent events have eroded your confidence to the point where you are hesitant. Ignore that doubt.
If you eat something and it disagrees with you, you are most unlikely to ever eat it again. But what if you meet someone and they disagree with you? It may not be so easy to simply decide to cut that individual right out of your life. It is particularly difficult to establish a relationship of trust and co-operation with a person who you feel has let you down or shown you a great lack of respect. If you give them a chance to do that to you all over again, doesn't that make you a fool? Not if you remain guarded at the same time as you show willing..
'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.' So goes the old saying. The implication here is that, while we may be able to blame someone else the first time they let us down, if we put ourselves in the position where they can do the same thing again, we have only ourselves to blame. This is a good, wise, rule but to every rule there is an exception. There are times when, if we are too draconian, we cut ourselves off from precious opportunities. Be wary of an offer by all means now, but don't slam a door shut.
If you don't stand a chance of winning, what is the point of competing? If your destiny has already been decided by some fateful force, why strive to change it? The real question you need to ask this week is, are you beaten before you begin? To this there can only be one answer. Of course you aren't! You will end up begin beaten only if you don't begin in the first place. Though you may have to work fairly hard to get where you want to end up but your aspiration is entirely attainable. You can yet show the future who is boss.
People are forever making journeys. Whether our expeditions take us to the ends of the earth or just down to the store and back, our lives revolve around them. Without some kind of reliable ability to get from A to B, we soon start to feel frustrated. Those physical excursions are not the only travels that we undertake. Mentally, emotionally, sometimes even socially, we are always trying to move upwards and onwards. Several factors have recently been impeding your progress. Soon you will have much more room to manoeuvre.
We all, to some extent, see what we want to see and believe what we choose to believe. By and large, this works fine for us. We are all happy enough living with our own versions of reality until, or unless, this is challenged. If, for example, someone says, 'You are wrong about everything you think you feel.' Or if circumstances prove so stressful that you start to doubt your own view of the world. There is room in your world now for two different ways to look at one situation. Neither is wholly right or wholly wrong.
How can two people, in one situation, see the same set of circumstances so differently? Because they each have different beliefs and opinions. These colour our vision more dramatically than we realise. Someone else is now looking at precisely the same situation as you, yet they are drawing very different conclusions. That doesn't mean they are wrong and you are right - or vice versa. It simply means you must somehow find a way to agree to differ. A small gesture on your part today could count for a lot.
We all know the scene. We have watched it unfold in a thousand movies. As the Sun hangs high in the noonday sky, folk flock from the saloon to line the dusty main street and watch the two gunslingers face each other off. As the seconds tick by in the countdown to the duel, one of the cowboys looks at the other and says, 'This town ain't big enough for the both of us.' Somewhere in your world now, a showdown of a similar nature is taking place. Who will win? Why, if you stand your ground, you will..
What happens when two people of the stand a good chance of getting what they want ? If one of those wants something that another person really wants them not to have, surely that's a stalemate? You may not now be at loggerheads with someone else who shares your area, but you do fear that someone somewhere is keen to prevent the very progress that you most desire. Even so, you can make it.
Great experts can often make even the trickiest tasks seem somehow effortless. With years of practice under their belt, they can undertake exercises that might seem overwhelmingly impossible to the likes of you and me. But in one key area of life, you have gained plenty of experience. You are a great expert. You have no reason to doubt yourself or your ability to make a positive difference in a sensitive situation. The challenge you face now, is one that you are perfectly placed to rise to successfully.
Think of a frog on a lily pad. It sits perfectly still. You might easily assume that it is asleep. A fly passes by and in a twinkling, the frog's tongue shoots out to catch it. Where is the stress, the effort and the energy being expended in that process? In a similar way, you need to be poised and ready for an opportunity when it presents itself. That doesn't mean that you need to race around making endless complicated preparations. It just means that you have to trust your moment will arise and then relax till it does.
Society requires us to be polite. We are taught from an early age to pick our words carefully and to phrase our questions delicately. We must say please and thank you. We must not speak openly about matters that may cause embarrassment. We must disguise our most intense emotions and pretend that we like people, even if we don't. Whilst a few of us break these rules, the majority strive to stick to them. So how can we tell what anyone else is really thinking or feeling? You will get some clues. Pay heed to them.
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