Tuesday 2 July 2013

WHAT TO DO

There are only ever two ways to protect yourself from a problem. You either solve it or you rise above it. So why do you seem to be having difficulty in answering a particular question now? Why does a situation seem to pose such a puzzle? Does it require resources that are in scant supply? Is it too complicated and difficult? Or might it, just possibly, be that there really isn't a problem at all and the reason you are finding it so hard to rise above your situation is because you are being nagged by a fear, not a reality.There is a sense now in which your current challenge is analogous to a situation like this. There's a lot to deal with but it can all be dealt with if you go at it steadily. 
You face a situation which seems remarkably similar to some other situation you have faced in the past. There may be echoes, overtones and reflections of the past in your present but that doesn't mean that you are caught up in some endless loop. When you are doing what you need to do, going where you need to go - and a necessary part of that journey involves revisiting some familiar scenarios. But as long as you remain willing to learn from an old experience, events really won't play out in exactly the same way they did last time.
You can hardly believe a saga seems to have been dragging on. You naturally like things to happen quickly. It is not that you are impatient but you don't see the point in making any process take longer than it needs to take. And you have an instinctive eye for short-cuts. So between this and the fact that your current challenge is not the most enjoyable one you have ever risen to, you are eager for progress. It is happening. You are starting to see signs of this already and soon, you will see more. So don't panic! 
 If you ever have to push a heavy cart up a steep hill, you will know it takes a lot of doing. And you can't ever really stop. The moment you cease putting in so much effort, you run the risk of it rushing back down in the direction from whence it came. Unless you've got a good pair of brakes or some blocks you can put under a wheel for awhile  you've just got to keep on pushing. But when you finally get to where you are going, it all becomes a much happier story. You have nearly arrived at such a pleasing point. And who are we to argue? For you, right now, there is a definite sense in which life seems to be speeding up almost unbearably one moment and then turning out to be impossibly slow the next. But even if time is proving somewhat unpredictable, there are other factors in your life that you can definitely trust and rely on.
Say only as much as you must. When some people get stressed out, others say to them, 'Take it easy.' That's such an infuriating thing to hear. Don't they realise that if we could take it easy, we would? There's a reason for the anxiety and aggravation - and surely it needs to be addressed before a mood can lighten and an atmosphere can alter. Or does it? What if, when irritation and its friend exasperation come knocking, we just refuse to answer the door? You may not be able to escape a problem now, but that doesn't mean you have to embrace it. Imagine walking out on a sunny day and suddenly getting caught in a rain shower. That kind of thing happens to us all from time to time. But we make a bit of a mistake if we ever start to take it personally. The weather doesn't have it in for you. Neither does the sun shine because the creator of the universe is trying to reward you. Nor does it snow by way of a personal punishment. And there are many other ways in which it is unwise to read too much into various circumstances that just happen to be occurring.  
The more you think about something that happened some while ago, the more you start to understand it in a different way. You are seeing a situation in a new light. You are coming to a new conclusion about one particular person's attitude or intention. Ideally, you would like to discuss all this with someone else who has shared this experience but can you rely on their judgement? Even if you can't, you can rely on your own. There is actually something very positive about the discovery you are starting to make. You should trust it
It can seem at times, as if a great deal of life's energy and attention has to be dedicated to the task of honouring and balancing various conflicting needs. Not only must we learn the art of inner compromise, we must also be sensitive to the requirements and preferences of those around us. Indeed, if they matter a great deal to us, we might decide that our own greatest need is simply to make sure that their greatest need is being met. That can help make some choices easier. But don't turn a compromise into a sacrifice.
 After they made you, they broke the mould. That's why nobody else quite knows how to handle you and why sometimes too, they reach the mistaken conclusion that you are like other ordinary people. They try to apply the rules that normal folk might have to expect to abide by. They can't really help this. It is just that not being so exceptional themselves, they can't see how exceptional you are. But that's no reason to compound the error by looking at what needs to be accomplished today and thinking, 'I'll never manage that'.


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