




imagine you are trying to solve a puzzle.There is a prize if you get it right or a punishment if you fail. 'Any old solution' won't do. The object of the exercise is not just to fill space. You are better off with a hole in your grid than you are with a misleading answer. You may not know, what you can accept but you know what you can reject. That's a fine start. Be fussy and be ready to succeed.
Imagine sitting in a cinema so bored by a movie that you start looking at the Exit sign and wondering who designed it and why it is that colour? Why would you do that? Well, maybe you are with someone who loves that film and will feel upset or abandoned if you depart. Or maybe... well, whatever the reason, there is an analogy here with something that is happening (or not happening) in your life. You are 'failing to engage' with a key situation, you either need to get into it... or get out of it!