this hadn't happened, that might never have occurred. Why was one particular decision ever reached? Couldn't anyone see what it was going to lead to? With questions like these we all torture ourselves. We wallow in regret and recrimination when we ought to be embracing the opportunity of each fresh new moment, then we wonder why our lives seem to lack magic and fun. There are aspects of the past that you must, indeed, recall and learn from. But there are other memories that it is safe for you to let go of