Learn the lessons that some people say we came to this earth to learn. The implication here is that fate is unalterable. But  to campaign hard against the notion of a fixed destiny and that the future isn't written in advance. Of course, it is. But it is written in pencil, not pen. When we know how to read it, we also discover how to change it! The outcome of a key process is wide open. Give all you've got to it.
Usually, when you face a threat or a stressful situation, you find some way of coping bravely. You have a particular knack of letting your adrenaline kick in, so that you appear confident and clear-headed. Only after trouble has died down do you realise how bad it was. Those same mechanisms don't apply when you are worried on someone else's behalf. Arguably, your ability to protect another person is being compromised slightly by the very fact that you are so keen to protect them. To be more effective, stand further back.
Have you ever driven a car through thick fog? You have to proceed very slowly and cautiously and you also have to wrestle with an almost overwhelming urge to get out and clean the windscreen. It isn't dirty or misted over but it appears to be. By much the same token, you are now dealing with a set of circumstances that are murky, misleading and almost impossible to make sense of. Your vision is not at fault, nor is the strength of your intellect or your ability to rationalise. Don't blame yourself. Just be patient a little longer. Big changes are due!
It is almost as if there are some ideas that you simply dare not allow yourself to entertain. Some notions, so extreme or extravagant, that the very act of letting them pass through your mind might be sufficient to lead you down a pathway of drama, disaster or decadence. Yet, can it really ever be right to be scared of a thought? And in refusing to contemplate one particular possibility, might we be inadvertently cutting ourselves off from other options that deserve greater attention? Dare to think the unthinkable now.
When setting out to solve a problem, it is always wise to commence with a few precautionary measures. Create a check-list and right at the very top of Page One, put the following question. Does this problem really need solving? It may not even be a problem at all. It may simply involve a situation that seems unsatisfactory or that challenges a very conventional view that is erroneously held by many people. Attaining an ideal solution now, may simply involve a conscious concerted effort to redefine what's needed. 
Under some circumstances, we can learn to love some of the very experiences that we gain least pleasure from. Indeed, even if an activity triggers an instant and immediate sense of revulsion, we may find that, through making a concerted effort, it is possible to overcome our objection and even replace the negative reaction with a positive one. Such a process takes time and effort. It requires a willingness to redefine some aspect of your own identity. It can be most rewarding and it can be worth attempting now.
Doubts are healthy and constructive. If we didn't have them, we would be far too naive and gullible. We would believe everything that everybody ever told us. We might place great weight on a light, passing remark and trust every statement we ever heard being made. Just imagine what it would be like if we heard a politician giving a speech! How could we do anything other than agree with them? You are quite right to question something that now seems suspicious. But don't be entirely cynical. Give it a fair chance to prove itself. 
We should never resent the past. We should always try to understand it, learn from it and, even if none of the above seems possible, forgive it. For as long as we continue to feel bad about something that has happened, it is going to be difficult for us to feel good about something else that may be due to happen one day. Your current  challenge involves making peace with a part of your own history. There needs to be a 'letting go' before there can be a 'moving on'. All that is required from you is a willingness to try.
Some swear by Vitamin C or Guarana or Manuka honey. That gives them a sense of well-being. Others seek their sparkle in more conventional places, like the pub or the coffee house. And there are some for whom the great daily stimulant is neither eaten nor drunk but absorbed through the mind, in the form of a good book and interesting dialogue - or perhaps even recourse to religious inspiration. Something that usually 'does it' for you no longer seems to be doing it for you. That, as you will soon see, is a positive change.
We can never be entirely sure about what someone else is thinking or feeling. When we simply guess, we may jump to the wrong conclusion. The only way to be sure is to ask - and we may need to be careful about how we ask. It's not that people are deliberately dishonest but they are sometimes coy. Instead of saying what they really feel, they may say what they think we might expect them to feel. You can't expect an honest answer to a crucial question now, unless you first make it clear that any answer you get is fine with you.
Have you heard the old saying, 'People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones?' I have never really understood this. Is it because, if they do throw stones people will throw them back at them and their glass houses will provide little by way of protection? Or does it imply that if the stone throwers operate from the comfort of their own homes, then their missiles will break their own windows before they hit any other target? Anyway, the message is clear, even if the medium is muddy. Watch who you criticise.
Trust in Allah but tie up your camel.' So goes the old Arabic saying. It vaguely matches a maxim from the Western world. 'Heaven helps those who help themselves.' Fortune - or the lack of it - is often not down to whether we have pleased or displeased a deity but whether we have taken all possible, sensible, steps to maximise our chance of success in a particular endeavour. Will you be lucky? That largely depends on how many bases you have covered and how cleverly you can plan your next few move.