The fact about intellectual superiority is in genes.If Spencer ,Nietzsche had married their sons would have contributed as much to philosophy as the sons and grandsons of Veit Bach contributed to music. Even setting aside the direct influence of heredity,there is the equally potent influence of example and tuition.The tendency to first rate men to remain a bachelor is very strong,even the married ones revealed this tendency .For example Shakespeare was forced into marriage while he was still a minor.tried his best to keep away from his wife as far as possible.His distaste was the cause of his residence in London.Better sort of men and women tried their best to avoid marriage .They want to do something else rather than marriage .But it is human nature that we want to have someone with us,and when we have-we want to get rid of
.Marriage is a compulsion for humans .On the one hand men want women, on the other hand feel over burden soon, so the seek divorce,even ready to pay huge money for liberty. Men play safe game of monogamy,while women is sensible enough to choose ordinary men to have safe marriage and children.She avoid high class men because she knew well their nature. Now a new way to have children by way of adoption,both men and women feel free of marriage obligations.Newer way to have freedom..Ethical motives can be abandoned whenever necessary,as experiences turn against them .Civilized men and women favor passion and passion is most dangerous of all the surviving enemies to what we call civilization,
which is based upon order,decorum, restraint,formality,industry,regimentation etc.
The ideal men never sacrifices the common security to his passions.He reaches perfection when he even ceases to love passionately--when he reduces the most profound of all his instinctive experiences from the levels of ecstasy to the level of a mere device for workshops of the world,even making possible to know where every citizen is at any hour of the day or night.Monogamy accomplishes this,not by producing satiety,but by destroying appetite.It makes passion formal and uninspiring,and so gradually kills it.The moral business of safeguarding the virtue of the unmarried is still passionate.It is quite impossible to kill a passion by arguing against it ..99% ,young men and women would submit the it would be much easier to submit than to resist.Curiosity would be satisfied,nature would get out of her cage,even romance would get an inning.But result? Disillusioned demoralizing passion.Nature is as it is!
Men women relation is complementary. Marriage of higher class men and women take place lately because of their priorities,which may be higher education or good career.But at last they both get married and settle down to live together.Both need each other emotionally, though other three factors are too cover under the package of marriage
.Women have greater capacity to controlling and concealing their emotions.This capacity is so rare today,today how to mask feelings is difficult as trend is changed now .Women are always against the war this is either transparently dishonest as at home they are always known as good fighter now a days,with so called women empowerment.Women recognize the nature of modern war instantly and accurately,they advocated no disingenuous efforts to conceal it.
The feminine talent for concealing emotion is probably largely responsible for the common masculine belief that women are devoid of passion,and men on the occasion when they give attention to he matter,are in state of conductive to exact observation.The truth is that there is absolutely no reason to believe that the normal woman is passionless.To be sure the peculiar vanity of men makes place a high value upon the virginal type of woman,and so this type tends to grow more common by sexual selection,but despite the fact it has by no means superseded the normal type,so realistically described by the theologians and publicists of Middle Ages.It would however be rash to assert that this long-continued sexual selection has not made itself felt,even in the normal type.Its chief effect,perhaps,is to make it measurably easier for a woman to conceal emotion than it is for a man. And this may be the main reason for concealing true emotions. At least every one of these men suffered from some obvious and intolerable qualification. Either he had a wife already and was vague about getting rid of her,or was drunk when he was brought proposal and repudiated it or forgot it the next day,or he was a bankrupt or his relatives were impossible.But always eligible for marriage in our society,Women who have become victim ,lose their market value in marriage.But men may be so cheap is eligible for marriage made women to conceal their truth.That is the main reason for not discussing such matters at all.It is transmitted from mother to daughter,so to speak behind the doors.But now educated women is smart enough to fight for her own rights,she can raise a voice against any such abuse may it be within four walls of house or outside.She knew now how to handle the situation.And now men are sufferer.Lately men can dictate women easily now women dictate men.
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Now relations have lost their warmth, because men and women both are out of house .Both of them are working then who will handle other domestic matters.Now male and female ego are at the same level.Now she cannot be dominated. Women are reluctant to enter into marriage.But this is applicable to average type of women.Marriage offers the best occupation which offers security emotional or as regard gained by way of getting married, economic security as wife is better half and has a fair share in her husband property. economic security is relative security,the best provider when wife want her share of property by force to have divorce soon after marriage and this is very mush in fashion now.In western countries rich women are due to divorce factor,getting divorce have money and liberty to enjoy life. In marriage she seeks a husband not sentimentally but realistically.It is common for men to marry women who bring nothing as joint property.Many rich men marry a teacher or governess etc. any woman that appeals him without a second thought.He want a pretty women as arm candy and feel better in society by having beautiful lady. Where as women get secure position in that station of life to which she is accustomed.Marriage is a form of partnership where both parties into a contract to live together enjoying best of life.Now it is degraded as never before. Women /men make calculations what will happen in future,if he/she marry a clerk ,will be head of the department after few years.Man thin"I wooed and won her:" whereas wife says"I made him run". earlier man suppose to be a monster and wife as victim. But now things have changed a lot.
Now no one marries their first choice as first choice may be beyond their talents.their second or third choice.Proceeds from moving picture actor or actress to beauty ,they are carried away by greater skills and greater attraction.This is normal history of a marriage.they seek a wide range of choices as the condition of their life allow. the servant girl, chorus girl or vampire of pictures or t.v. serials would be the millionaires wife of next year.Both sexes roll eyes as wide as they can to get a partner in life. And who get their first choices are rare. An average man or woman is well aware of fact that difference between man and woman is so slight to be practically negligible if money is put aside.Thus woman is none of common masculine illusion about soul mates or love at first sight etc.She is always ready to marry a man who is plainly eligible,and she usually knows a good many more such than one.Her demand is not love or romance but for comfort and security,she is thus easier to satisfied than a man and oftener happy.One frequently hears of remarried widowers who continue to moon about their dead wives bur for a remarried widow to show any such sentimentality would be nine days wonder. But this may be to get new husband attention and prove her loyalty.The bachelor capacity to avoid marriage is no more thana proof of his relative freedom from the ordinary sentimentalism of his sex-- in other words of his greater approximation to the clear-headdedness of the enemy sex..
.Marriage is a compulsion for humans .On the one hand men want women, on the other hand feel over burden soon, so the seek divorce,even ready to pay huge money for liberty. Men play safe game of monogamy,while women is sensible enough to choose ordinary men to have safe marriage and children.She avoid high class men because she knew well their nature. Now a new way to have children by way of adoption,both men and women feel free of marriage obligations.Newer way to have freedom..Ethical motives can be abandoned whenever necessary,as experiences turn against them .Civilized men and women favor passion and passion is most dangerous of all the surviving enemies to what we call civilization,
which is based upon order,decorum, restraint,formality,industry,regimentation etc.
The ideal men never sacrifices the common security to his passions.He reaches perfection when he even ceases to love passionately--when he reduces the most profound of all his instinctive experiences from the levels of ecstasy to the level of a mere device for workshops of the world,even making possible to know where every citizen is at any hour of the day or night.Monogamy accomplishes this,not by producing satiety,but by destroying appetite.It makes passion formal and uninspiring,and so gradually kills it.The moral business of safeguarding the virtue of the unmarried is still passionate.It is quite impossible to kill a passion by arguing against it ..99% ,young men and women would submit the it would be much easier to submit than to resist.Curiosity would be satisfied,nature would get out of her cage,even romance would get an inning.But result? Disillusioned demoralizing passion.Nature is as it is!
Men women relation is complementary. Marriage of higher class men and women take place lately because of their priorities,which may be higher education or good career.But at last they both get married and settle down to live together.Both need each other emotionally, though other three factors are too cover under the package of marriage
.Women have greater capacity to controlling and concealing their emotions.This capacity is so rare today,today how to mask feelings is difficult as trend is changed now .Women are always against the war this is either transparently dishonest as at home they are always known as good fighter now a days,with so called women empowerment.Women recognize the nature of modern war instantly and accurately,they advocated no disingenuous efforts to conceal it.
The feminine talent for concealing emotion is probably largely responsible for the common masculine belief that women are devoid of passion,and men on the occasion when they give attention to he matter,are in state of conductive to exact observation.The truth is that there is absolutely no reason to believe that the normal woman is passionless.To be sure the peculiar vanity of men makes place a high value upon the virginal type of woman,and so this type tends to grow more common by sexual selection,but despite the fact it has by no means superseded the normal type,so realistically described by the theologians and publicists of Middle Ages.It would however be rash to assert that this long-continued sexual selection has not made itself felt,even in the normal type.Its chief effect,perhaps,is to make it measurably easier for a woman to conceal emotion than it is for a man. And this may be the main reason for concealing true emotions. At least every one of these men suffered from some obvious and intolerable qualification. Either he had a wife already and was vague about getting rid of her,or was drunk when he was brought proposal and repudiated it or forgot it the next day,or he was a bankrupt or his relatives were impossible.But always eligible for marriage in our society,Women who have become victim ,lose their market value in marriage.But men may be so cheap is eligible for marriage made women to conceal their truth.That is the main reason for not discussing such matters at all.It is transmitted from mother to daughter,so to speak behind the doors.But now educated women is smart enough to fight for her own rights,she can raise a voice against any such abuse may it be within four walls of house or outside.She knew now how to handle the situation.And now men are sufferer.Lately men can dictate women easily now women dictate men.
.
Now relations have lost their warmth, because men and women both are out of house .Both of them are working then who will handle other domestic matters.Now male and female ego are at the same level.Now she cannot be dominated. Women are reluctant to enter into marriage.But this is applicable to average type of women.Marriage offers the best occupation which offers security emotional or as regard gained by way of getting married, economic security as wife is better half and has a fair share in her husband property. economic security is relative security,the best provider when wife want her share of property by force to have divorce soon after marriage and this is very mush in fashion now.In western countries rich women are due to divorce factor,getting divorce have money and liberty to enjoy life. In marriage she seeks a husband not sentimentally but realistically.It is common for men to marry women who bring nothing as joint property.Many rich men marry a teacher or governess etc. any woman that appeals him without a second thought.He want a pretty women as arm candy and feel better in society by having beautiful lady. Where as women get secure position in that station of life to which she is accustomed.Marriage is a form of partnership where both parties into a contract to live together enjoying best of life.Now it is degraded as never before. Women /men make calculations what will happen in future,if he/she marry a clerk ,will be head of the department after few years.Man thin"I wooed and won her:" whereas wife says"I made him run". earlier man suppose to be a monster and wife as victim. But now things have changed a lot.
Now no one marries their first choice as first choice may be beyond their talents.their second or third choice.Proceeds from moving picture actor or actress to beauty ,they are carried away by greater skills and greater attraction.This is normal history of a marriage.they seek a wide range of choices as the condition of their life allow. the servant girl, chorus girl or vampire of pictures or t.v. serials would be the millionaires wife of next year.Both sexes roll eyes as wide as they can to get a partner in life. And who get their first choices are rare. An average man or woman is well aware of fact that difference between man and woman is so slight to be practically negligible if money is put aside.Thus woman is none of common masculine illusion about soul mates or love at first sight etc.She is always ready to marry a man who is plainly eligible,and she usually knows a good many more such than one.Her demand is not love or romance but for comfort and security,she is thus easier to satisfied than a man and oftener happy.One frequently hears of remarried widowers who continue to moon about their dead wives bur for a remarried widow to show any such sentimentality would be nine days wonder. But this may be to get new husband attention and prove her loyalty.The bachelor capacity to avoid marriage is no more thana proof of his relative freedom from the ordinary sentimentalism of his sex-- in other words of his greater approximation to the clear-headdedness of the enemy sex..
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