Saturday 11 August 2012

INTROSPECTION..........4

Family is smaller unit of our society,and when we have forgotten what life is about and what will be life without purpose or without humanity?WE ARE TOO BUSY  to give time to our loved ones,our family,however now family is nuclear family which consists of we two our two.Still we have loads of troubles in making pace with our life.Every one is confused and really do not know how to add up all to create harmony in all spheres of life, a perfect balance is distant dream.

Decades ago family have uncles,aunts,grand parents,lot of people around us,and sociology was learn automatically.Whenever there had been any problems older one gave valuable and practical solutions learnt through course of time.Today even our own children are not with us ,we are facing empty home syndrome.Now love is expressed through three words I LOVE YOU, verbally.that too in telephone-mobile or Internet chatting.

Every body is after comfort zone,parents send their children in boarding houses and children sent their parents in old age homes. WHAT AN ARRANGEMENT ! Tolerance rate is very low so broken homes  breeds frustration.Money is in deed a real need but it is not all you have to acquired in your life,it is one thing and there are other things too. We regret in last by thinking- I'd like to be the person I could have been.Mend your ways before it is too late.
Elements in our society are not driven by money.At right age and right time, is set for everything,at home children learn loving,caring and sharing.Both parents work hard for their family,so values automatically imbibed in naturally.Values enable us to have second though and behave in purposeful way,extending help and  apology restore revival.Unwelcoming lectures should be avoided.Listen to your child without necessarily agreeing  can give you an insight into the process what is going on in their mind,discuss everyday happening, admitting your mistakes  and even apologizing will not only set example but it also raise self-esteem in your child's eyes.No matter how time changed-we will  always need to uphold values which help us to become a better  human being.

Our life real needs are very simple and in fact not cost us more,but our craze for pump and show or leaving a legacy behind- made us the person we are now,leading  disturbed and complex lives.So when you give kindness to the needy,smile to exhausted person,encouragement to dishearted person you will get in retuen the same and it is universal law-.A simple change will bring amazing result.It would be enough if you are able to bring smile on faces of your loved ones, to make you happy. Love and compassion will  improve our relations and develop harmony  in our lives.We need people to share,that is why we create family.

But problem is when we expect  others should know what we want as if others are mind-readers.The other should know our problems, our sufferings,our needs-specially from our life partner or lover.Is it not strange that even we don't know ourselves well and expecting from others. By chance we met and by chance we are together,our loneliness is truth.ACCEPT IT.Do not forget it,you have to work upon it, You had come alone and go alone,crowd is to create a sense of security.We feel safe in crowd.But in crowd you seek what is not there then you take alcohol or drugs to forget all.Face it boldly and in your aloofness seek true companion,your soul which is extension of source.

Solution to all of your problems is look within, to find space of silence and acceptance of yourself as you are! You are integration of inner and outer duality to create mystical union of opposites.One time you are under limelight other time you are out  on streets.Life is short,use it wisely,for who cares for you and not for whom-who is using you.Live your life fully.In our life it is repetitive either other is using us or we are using someone for our own benefit.is it not strange we cry foul play when other use us,and relish when we use others.

Be strong to get on with your life.People on which our collective happiness in society rests.Instilling values is a difficult job,frustrating and thankless job. But once we have done it successfully-unselfishness,integrity,tolerance and self-respect,self-discipline nurture.Try to live in present,then you will come to know how you had created all your pains  venturing either in future or past . Better practice what you preach.You will find a real safe place,where peace exists.Where beyond words silence resides and in this silence and stillness we will find now.Now is all in all and there is peace,restoring your self-confidence,self-esteem and find yourself strong enough to get on with your life what ever circumstances may be.Now you do not need anyone.But gain this stage first.

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