When so much is going hard in life and still insisted on enjoying life,is it not look like a joke.Mourning the loss of individual or group-gives us insidious sense of guilt,so how to manage it then? Sympathy,showing sympathy will do,but inner voice which is rejoicing "Thank god it was not me,I am safe".So this voice either relieved us of the horror of death on the one side and the other side is our conscious continuously pointing us,It could be you!They lost their lives for us, so that we may live.It is guilt deep inside chilling-haunted us,every time when there is a attack or other happening like disasters or group killing etc.
The guilt inside is that we the living beings have allowed others to die, we could be at their place,is what-enjoying life,enjoying beingness and this is a hard fact,whenever some one die,we have q deep sigh:thank god it was not me,I am still living.And this is as natural as our breath is.We never wished their death in our heart even secretly never wished. Life and death is natural.Every one born and will die. we have to accept death is a natural thing,people who died-had their ill fate,we were never to blame their death provided we ourselves had not done this,if so than guilt is a reality
After death we are in shocked state,but mourning is a ritual to relieve us of shocks and pains that is why there are many tradition in every communities of mournings .Pick up every broken piece of your heart and hope for the best.We are still here on the earth-celebrate it.Lunch and dinners after the death of our loved one shows that we are ready to move on,have accepted the loss.Sweets and other dishes are served on 10th day or so on depends on state or country or separate religions,but one thing is common,ritual of mournings and then celebrating the joy of living side by side.
Be it India or America or U K there are separate rituals to eat and drink after mournings. In India Haridwar or Varansi where some Puja performed followed by feeding sweets and food to people returning from funerary rites. IS it not true that we have left someone dear behind,and now ready to move on again.There is nothing wrong as this is the way of life,we can not die with our loved ones and only to move on is choice.Life and death are natural aspects of normal life the one who is born wil ldie one day too! What is the wrong with it.Wrong is our thinking ,we cling to the things and relations.We want to have possessions and want to live for ever ever,that the reason of guilt or shock.Try to live in now,now is all we get.Enjoy every second of this moment,then we live fully without complaing and mournings because we had lived fully enjoying gifts of almighty.
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