There is an old sporting saying, 'It's not the winning that counts; it's the taking part.' Strangely, we only ever say this to the losers. Likewise the saying, 'It's not the destination that matters, it's the journey.' To see the relevance of this, you only have to think about life itself. We don't even know where we are going. For us, it's all about getting there. And in all matters romantic and emotional, there are never any winners or any losers. Participation is all. Remember that and enjoy the challenge of each moment as it arises.