Monday 18 February 2013

BE DIFFERENT ACT DIFFERENT

A revolution may never occur but an evolution is entirely possible. If you want things to be different, act differently. How dramatic do those changes need to be ?Why strive for something you're not even sure you believe in, or struggle to attain some highly-debatable goal? If you're going to give all you've got to anything, give it to something that stands a chance of giving you something back. A notion doesn't stand up to close scrutiny. Not only are you pinning your hopes on a false assumption, you're dedicating hours to a project that, even if it could be brought to fruition, is unlikely to offer much reward. 
In your emotional life particularly, you deserve better. And you can yet get it.How words have the power to create an illusion, and how the actions that one person takes can sometimes totally fail to have an impact on someone else. Don't believe all you are told now... and don't imagine, either, that someone else is having exactly the same experience within a sensitive situation... as you. One possibility is about to slip through your fingers when  you seems, losing a chance that you were keen to keep. 
Look, though, at what is now coming to take its place. Isn't that an infinitely superior option? You may have less power in one way. But in another you are effectively taking charge of an entire universe! It can only be a matter of time before you find a way to return to the area of life where you appear to have lost out - and redress the imbalance... if by then, you still want to do this. If I were to tell you that somewhere in your social circle is a person who can be of great help to you, what would you think? Your automatic response would be to consider your favourite relationships. The people you know best, or the ones that you may not be well acquainted with, but you like the look of. Your social circle, though, is wider than you realise and it contains folk who you feel little or no affinity to. It may well be one of these people who now holds the key to the next big move you need to make.  Recent converts to a cause always tend to be more zealous than lifelong believers. If the newly persuaded happen to have been of a directly opposite persuasion, they have an even greater incentive to bang the drum. It lets them drown out the sound of their memory. 
It is hard to feel compassion for someone who demonstrates aggression. But, for the sake of a good thing that is in danger of getting a bad reputation, you need to pursue a line based on tolerance as you now make your next moves. Agreement can only ever be reached if two individuals sincerely want to reach it. Some people, though, find conflict comforting. They enjoy having a bone to pick. There's a little part of everyone that secretly likes to hold on to a grudge. This may not be the most powerful factor in your personality, but it does need to be watched. There is a real chance, now, to put a problem behind you. 
You have far more to gain from moving on than from fighting your corner. Resist the temptation to argue. Make the peace instead. There's a lovely children's story about a magical porridge pot that would keep producing food for its owner without the need for him, or her, to put anything in. In the real world, though, there's no such thing as something for nothing. Or is there?
Take a walk through nature sometimes. Edible plants and berries grow by the side of the road. If we want a lot in life, we must strive for it, of course, but if we only want a little, we simply need to have faith and keep our eyes open. A gift is being offered to you now. Normally I encourage people not to dwell in the land of 'what might have been'. I remind them that whilst the words 'if' and 'only' are innocuous enough in isolation, they combine to make a potent and potentially devastating cocktail. Maybe now, though, I should break that rule and urge you to take a flight of fancy. 
Think of how things might have been had key events run a slightly different course. Wallow in that vapid vision then give thanks for the way it has all turned out! What's happening right now is now right.We worry so much about saving money, yet pay scant regard for the need to save time. We undervalue our own importance. We put ourselves through unnecessary experiences. Or treat ourselves to luxuries and then feel guilty about the indulgence. But you are entitled to comfort and also to a life of meaning.  You are being offered the chance to get something you really deserve. First, though, you have to overcome the fear that somehow you are not worthy. Some plans come to fruition. Others do. 
We can take a simplistic view and decide to celebrate when there's a clear connection between intention and accomplishment, and to feel miserable when there is not. But if we were truly wise and blessed with the ability to see life from a more cosmic perspective, we might not be so sure of this. Often our greatest gifts stem directly from moments of sudden chaos. Here now, in your emotional life, comes something crazy. It will yet turn out to make perfect sense.  Meanwhile You can't have winners and losers unless you have some kind of a competition going on. 
Despite the fact that we are encouraged from an early age, to see life as a race, our happiness is not dependent on point-scoring. True joy is not linked to the ability to get what you want. It stems from the ability to see that there's more to existence than material success. Don't make artificial, superficial comparisons now. If, where it counts, deep in your heart, you are definitely 'winning', victories of any other kind are hollow.

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