VALENTINE DAY

People say that falling in love is comparatively easy. It is breaking up that is hard to do. They may be right. That may not only explain why some relationships end so stressfully, but why some keep rolling on long after an outside observer might have suspected that a connection had gone beyond its natural expiry date. What is going on in your world now? Are you trying to breathe life back into a situation that has somehow run out of steam? Be careful. You may yet discover that you are more successful than you ever expected to be!We all want to be childlike, but none of us would wish to be thought of as childish. It is good to have a sense of wide-eyed wonder and enthusiasm. It is not so good to throw tantrums or lapse into unreasonable sulks. Likewise, when it comes to conducting ourselves in relationships, we always do better when we are open and honest with each other. But that doesn't mean that we have to share every last detail or reveal too much information. When dealing with life's more sensitive issues today, try to strike that balance. 
 The trouble with dedicating one day of the year to a celebration of romance is that this doesn't allow room for spontaneous expression. You might have felt inspired to give someone flowers yesterday. They might feel equally inspired to do the same for you tomorrow. But if it doesn't happen on the day of the year when it is supposed to happen, what does that say? Yet how much meaning should you really read into all that is happening today? For best results, take each moment as it comes for whatever it happens to contain.You can, if you choose to, waste a lot of time thinking about how things were. You can waste even more time thinking about how they may be one day in the future, there is still a very big message to be taken from the spirit of the day. It is a time for celebrating the moment. For making the most of the here and now. And you will yet find that today truly brings you something that is worth making the most of, and as the world grows more cynical year by year, that job gets ever harder to do. Fortunately, he won't have to work so hard on your behalf today. There is a natural sense of empathy, affinity and respect between you and a particular person now. And that counts for far more than gifts, cards or flowers.
You are not allowing yourself to hold, in your heart, so much as a single expectation that is unlikely to be fulfilled. Even if all you are expecting is 'nothing', it is the kind of 'nothing' that you are not just resigned to, but happy about. You wouldn't want things any other way than the way they are likely to turn out today. Although, just possibly, you might find it easier to bring future change into your life, if you were to be a little more open to fresh possibilities.The most famous form of romantic divination involves the petals of a flower. Tradition dictates that these must be peeled away, one at a time, whilst ultimately uttering the phrase, 'He (or she) loves me, he (or she) loves me not.' The phrase that accompanies the removal of the last petal is considered to be the true indication of the state of the would-be partner's heart. But isn't that a question so big that it cannot possibly be right to leave the answer to chance? You can make someone love you now - if you really want to!
The world, today, is ready for romance. All over the globe, you can hear vases being filled with water, ready for fresh flowers. Bottles of bubbly, slowly chilling in the fridge. Cards, dropping on doormats and arriving in inboxes. And is any of this happening for you? Well, even if it is, it isn't. You are beyond gestures and tokens. You see further than symbols and suggestions. Something is either real or it isn't. What you can be comfortable about is that the things in life that most matter to your heart are absolutely real now.Only very passive people sit around wondering what kind of message they are going to receive on Valentine's Day. Most feel that they are unlikely to be surprised by the day's developments - and if something unexpected does occur, it should be a bonus. You already know where you stand with a particular individual now and you consider it most unlikely that what transpires today will alter this. You may be right, yet you may also be about to discover that you have far more power than you realise over the future of this relationship.
So, is it Valentine's Day? Or is it your day? Are you thinking about what the world seems to think you ought to be thinking about? Or are you big and brave enough to say, 'I'm following my own agenda and anyone who can't respect me for that and accept it, can hardly be the right sort of person for me to be having a relationship with.' The big astrological influence in your life now describes a process by which you move ever further from the artificial expectations that have coloured too many of your past choices. While Mars remains in your opposite sign, it is entirely appropriate for you to keep discovering that you have more fans and admirers than you knew. I would be saying something along these lines to you now, even if it weren't Valentine's Day. What good is that to you? Does it represent more than a boost to your ego that you might not even feel the need for? Well, that is what is interesting. It does. Somewhere in what is happening now, is a deepening of an extremely important and meaningful connection.
Okay. Listen carefully, Cupid. Sit down over there and shut up. I don't want to hear any more from you today, unless I ask you for a contribution. And the same goes for you Valentine. We've heard more than enough of your nonsense already. This makes you fully entitled to give orders to all the saints and angels. They will willingly do your bidding - as, indeed, will the rest of us. We know who is boss. We know who not to argue with. We know why you deserve our full attention and appreciation. ----------Jonathan cainer.