IF AND BUT

You have got what you need. What else do you need to know? Perhaps what you need is not the only thing that you've got. We all need to know the difference between what we need and what we don't need. If you don't know that, then having what you need may not do you much good. Indeed, if you think that you need the thing that you really don't need, you may yet make a series of regrettable errors. So, how can you be clear about the difference?  Just be honest with yourself.Think of how things could have been if only you had done this instead of that. What if you had made some other choice at a vital moment? How might your life have turned out differently? So, have you made a mistake? Must you now pay a price forever? Is this your punishment for some past misjudgement? If you look at it like that, you can soon see a reason to dismiss everything in your life right now, as a small problem just waiting to turn into a bigger problem. But that is not how to look at it, nor as it is - as soon you will see.
You now have a strong instinctive feeling about a situation. You reckon you know what is needed and you have a strong sense of who you can trust. So, that's fine, isn't it? It's not as if you've ever been wrong before, is it? Have you once or twice felt absolutely certain of something, only to discover later that you had good grounds for doubt? A-ha! I thought you might say that. So, let's try another test. What does your intuition tell you about your own intuition? Should you trust it? 
If you have got something to be grateful for, then you have got the potential for trouble. What if you lose it? What if it goes wrong? There is no point in letting gratitude feed insecurity - but sometimes it can be hard to prevent such a process from taking hold. On the other hand, the reverse is also true. If you have trouble, it can only be because you have something to feel grateful for. If there wasn't something (or someone) who you cared enough about to protect, why would you worry?Are the odds in our favour or are they against us? We all ask ourselves questions like this when we feel unsure of a move that we might be about to make. But why? What difference is it going to make? Not every race is won by the favourite. Not every outsider with a slim chance of success comes to grief. Not every decision can be made on the basis of an assessment of statistical likelihood. There is a chance. That is better than no chance. Now, what do you want to do? Think about that chance? Or seize it?
Some people lack a sense of conscience and responsibility. They feel entitled to walk away from situations that seem uncomfortable or which have begun to prove problematic. If they see that it is possible to get out, they will just take that chance, leaving it to others to sort out the mess. How can they be that way? Well, maybe when the universe was handing out a sense of duty to each one of us, you got given their share as well as your own! But then, maybe that is all the more reason to give it back to them.Some people are hard to get along with. They may not respect social protocol. They may even deliberately adopt antagonistic stances. If we are wise, we don't jump to immediate conclusions when we first encounter such attitudes. We make allowances. We think, 'Perhaps they are having a bad day.' Or we remember that some of the most affable and amenable personalities, ever to walk the earth, have disguised secret dark sides. Let a little more time pass before you reach a conclusion about someone.
You will just have to try your best. And if it isn't enough, if it doesn't do the job, if it fails to bring the desired result? Well then, what else are you supposed to do? Your worst? You are already doing your best, aren't you?
All of us face problems,phases of uncertainty and when we are at the bottom,feeling low and frustrated.Even when we know what is our future we do not have power to change our fate so better would be  calm down and doing the best what is in our hand and leave rest to god.For better hopes we do consult someone and have opinions,to be certain of our decisions and actions.'The definition of insanity, is to keep doing the same thing, over again, expecting that one day, you will get a different result.' None of us is that crazy. If we are repeating exercises, it is either because we gain some pleasure or benefit from them, regardless of how much we may protest otherwise. Or, it is because every so often, once in a while, we do enjoy a different outcome. In which case, the activity is not futile. There is at least some chance that it will produce vindication.
 Don't be too quick to dismiss a plan.It is hard to imagine how anyone could strive with greater sincerity or dedicate more time and energy towards the fulfilment of an important goal. Is the goal wrong? Might you be pursuing an inappropriate plan? Don't trouble yourself with such distracting doubts. Just stick with what you have started. Back in the old days, stage magicians used to pull rabbits out of hats. I'm not sure if animal cruelty laws still permit this but for the sake of our analogy today, let us imagine that they do. Let us also imagine that you have trained in the illusionist's art and are about to perform such a trick. You swish your wand, you reach into the hat and then you freeze with fear. What if the rabbit isn't there? What if you are only bluffing? Concerns of this kind are now starting to erode your confidence. Ignore them! All will be fine..Fortune-tellers are dangerous because we trust them and surrender our powers to those notions, which may be wrong or faulty sometimes.The shops are full of cards and gifts. It is boom time for jewellers and the florists. This week, everyone is supposed to be in love - and they are supposed to be declaring it too. And what kind of love does St Valentine signify? Neither brotherly love, sisterly love, nor the adoration that we feel for our parents and our offspring. Neither the love of creation, nor the 'unconditional love', that some believe the Creator has for us. Surely, that is the only kind of love that is worth having, isn't it? Be careful for what you settle for  and what you notions expected to change all our lives