Most of us are not mind-readers. All of us are psychics. How can both statements be true? Because we are so inherently sensitive that we develop defence mechanisms at an early age. We close down, clam up, blank out and gloss over the subtle signs and signals that are all around us, just waiting to be noticed. We decide that it is hard enough dealing with our own feelings without feeling what others feel.Things could be worse. Indeed, they could be a whole lot worse. But then, they could be better. So can we conclude that the fates are not being particularly kind to you, yet nor are they conspiring to make your life a misery? Well, that's not really such a comforting view. Perhaps we should look more closely at the one factor that is giving you most cause for concern. What is really bad about it? The way things actually are? Or the way in which they could potentially turn bad?To all intents and purposes, you have now got what you need.
There is actually only one more thing that you really require, and that is the ability to recognise what an advantage you have. For as long as you can't see this, you will keep looking for things that you have already found, unable to appreciate their true value! That will waste a lot of time and energy during a phase of your life when you really need to be as focused as possible. Begin as you will need to go on, by taking a good look at where you already areTimes change. So too do people's attitudes and expectations. What displeases one pope may be seen as perfectly acceptable by another pontiff. We all have to get used to the process of evolution and it helps us greatly in this regard if we are not overly attached to the way things were. The more you now refer back to a previous point of reference, the more uncomfortable you become about a current situation.
There is really nothing wrong with what's going on, other than it's not quite the way things used to be. When one door closes, another one opens. But there are exceptions to this rule. Sometimes when one door closes, another closes too. That may be for the best. There can, for example, be some great need for several doors to close. Only once you have bravely closed one door, can you see the need to close the next one. Possibly, only after all the doors are closed, will you ever know which one you need to reopen. If you really want to something to start, you must first allow something else to stop.
Opinions are like life rafts. Whenever the seas get choppy beneath the ship of daily life, we start looking anxiously in the direction of those safety vessels. We think, 'I shall take some refuge here.' But unless a life-raft is regularly tested, it may not provide much protection should an emergency occur. Perhaps, in your life now, there is an idea in which you have become overly reliant. Put more faith today in what you know to be actually true beyond all doubt and pay less to what you merely believe to be right - or wrong.We are usually reluctant to criticise successful people. We may find fault with them behind their backs but, well, if someone is clearly reaping a reward, it seems silly to waste time telling them what they are doing wrong! But the moment that same person briefly loses their foothold on the tightrope wire of life, everyone has something to say. 'Ah, yes, no wonder. You did it that way when you should have done it the other way. It is only ever wise to follow the path of least resistance if you don't much care where it leads. If you have got a particular destination in mind, if you have a strong preference about whether you want to get there, you will see the point in travelling along the trickier road, even if that turns out to be a much more demanding journey.
Sometime easier options may seem tempting but they really may not bring you as many benefits as you might eventually wish to enjoy. It will be worth putting in a little bit more effort.Are you asking for too much? Are your sights set too high? Are your standards too demanding? I'm not asking this in an attempt to persuade you to lower your standards. I'm just attempting to articulate a fear that you may already be experiencing. You keep looking at what you want and thinking, 'I'm not entitled to this.' But why shouldn't you be? Why shouldn't you want it? Why shouldn't you get it?
Don't create an artificially pessimistic limit to the amount of progress that you are able to make.They say, 'before you judge someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes.' But what if their shoes don't fit your feet? Even if they are the same size, the other person may have a walking pattern that wears down the sole unevenly. That's still uncomfortable. There are some things that we may never fully understand about one another, even when we have a close relationship based on respect, admiration and affection. But you can at least get a little closer to a better rapport with someone important.
Some of the world's greatest actors have never won an Oscar. Some of the finest musicians have never had a hit. Fame, is only one measure of success. And, when we stop to think about the people who are extremely well known, even though they seem to have little talent, we can see why. Reputation is a funny thing. But if you really want to be thought well of, you surely want to earn the appreciation of those who truly recognise the depth and artistry that you bring to an activity. You may have recently been holding a discussion about how to distinguish between an intuitive inner-voice and some other expression of need, fear or desire. It's quite an art. It's also confronting. None of us like to feel that there are several iterations of our personality that do not all agree with each other. Doesn't that suggest we may be slightly mad? It does... but then, we are! All of us are!
The ones who pretend to be sane are the craziest of the lot! You know full well what your deepest intuition is telling you now..Imagine a daffodil, proud and vibrant, blooming brightly, in a field. Does it secretly think, 'Oh, I wish I had been a rose?' Yet how often do we overlook the importance of the role that we are playing or the life that we are living, and pine instead, for some distant dream? We make false comparisons. We develop unrealistic expectations. We fail to see the magic of 'what is' because we are so busy thinking about 'what was', or 'what could be', or, 'what could have been.' You deserve so much more as you are loving child of god.
There is actually only one more thing that you really require, and that is the ability to recognise what an advantage you have. For as long as you can't see this, you will keep looking for things that you have already found, unable to appreciate their true value! That will waste a lot of time and energy during a phase of your life when you really need to be as focused as possible. Begin as you will need to go on, by taking a good look at where you already areTimes change. So too do people's attitudes and expectations. What displeases one pope may be seen as perfectly acceptable by another pontiff. We all have to get used to the process of evolution and it helps us greatly in this regard if we are not overly attached to the way things were. The more you now refer back to a previous point of reference, the more uncomfortable you become about a current situation.
There is really nothing wrong with what's going on, other than it's not quite the way things used to be. When one door closes, another one opens. But there are exceptions to this rule. Sometimes when one door closes, another closes too. That may be for the best. There can, for example, be some great need for several doors to close. Only once you have bravely closed one door, can you see the need to close the next one. Possibly, only after all the doors are closed, will you ever know which one you need to reopen. If you really want to something to start, you must first allow something else to stop.
Opinions are like life rafts. Whenever the seas get choppy beneath the ship of daily life, we start looking anxiously in the direction of those safety vessels. We think, 'I shall take some refuge here.' But unless a life-raft is regularly tested, it may not provide much protection should an emergency occur. Perhaps, in your life now, there is an idea in which you have become overly reliant. Put more faith today in what you know to be actually true beyond all doubt and pay less to what you merely believe to be right - or wrong.We are usually reluctant to criticise successful people. We may find fault with them behind their backs but, well, if someone is clearly reaping a reward, it seems silly to waste time telling them what they are doing wrong! But the moment that same person briefly loses their foothold on the tightrope wire of life, everyone has something to say. 'Ah, yes, no wonder. You did it that way when you should have done it the other way. It is only ever wise to follow the path of least resistance if you don't much care where it leads. If you have got a particular destination in mind, if you have a strong preference about whether you want to get there, you will see the point in travelling along the trickier road, even if that turns out to be a much more demanding journey.
Sometime easier options may seem tempting but they really may not bring you as many benefits as you might eventually wish to enjoy. It will be worth putting in a little bit more effort.Are you asking for too much? Are your sights set too high? Are your standards too demanding? I'm not asking this in an attempt to persuade you to lower your standards. I'm just attempting to articulate a fear that you may already be experiencing. You keep looking at what you want and thinking, 'I'm not entitled to this.' But why shouldn't you be? Why shouldn't you want it? Why shouldn't you get it?
Don't create an artificially pessimistic limit to the amount of progress that you are able to make.They say, 'before you judge someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes.' But what if their shoes don't fit your feet? Even if they are the same size, the other person may have a walking pattern that wears down the sole unevenly. That's still uncomfortable. There are some things that we may never fully understand about one another, even when we have a close relationship based on respect, admiration and affection. But you can at least get a little closer to a better rapport with someone important.
Some of the world's greatest actors have never won an Oscar. Some of the finest musicians have never had a hit. Fame, is only one measure of success. And, when we stop to think about the people who are extremely well known, even though they seem to have little talent, we can see why. Reputation is a funny thing. But if you really want to be thought well of, you surely want to earn the appreciation of those who truly recognise the depth and artistry that you bring to an activity. You may have recently been holding a discussion about how to distinguish between an intuitive inner-voice and some other expression of need, fear or desire. It's quite an art. It's also confronting. None of us like to feel that there are several iterations of our personality that do not all agree with each other. Doesn't that suggest we may be slightly mad? It does... but then, we are! All of us are!
The ones who pretend to be sane are the craziest of the lot! You know full well what your deepest intuition is telling you now..Imagine a daffodil, proud and vibrant, blooming brightly, in a field. Does it secretly think, 'Oh, I wish I had been a rose?' Yet how often do we overlook the importance of the role that we are playing or the life that we are living, and pine instead, for some distant dream? We make false comparisons. We develop unrealistic expectations. We fail to see the magic of 'what is' because we are so busy thinking about 'what was', or 'what could be', or, 'what could have been.' You deserve so much more as you are loving child of god.
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