Infinity is not imaginary. Eternity is not some far-fetched romantic notion. These things are very real. More real, indeed, than the fleeting lives that we lead and the ephemeral identities that we relate to so closely. How dare any of us decide that there is only one thing that is ever going to make us feel happy? What is the point of feeling fed up about one thing you seemingly can't have or change, when there is such a bigger perspective to be seen?If you are driving your car very slowly, you will need to pull hard on the steering wheel if you want to turn a corner. If you are travelling at some speed, though, no such effort is needed. It is quite sufficient just to give the wheel a gentle nudge in the preferred direction.Look at what speed are you moving in your emotional life?Don't make an overly emphatic move or you may swerve along the path of your destiny. Just be gentle and you'll easily attain the direction you want to proceed in. Balance is essence of life but to know where balance is-hard!Just imagine if you had total freedom. Think how bored you would be. How empty life would seem. Our obligations may weigh us down at times but they provide an essential sense of structure. Our restrictions may be a drag, but at least they protect us from falling into a chasm of confusion. Folks who have too much choice don't enjoy life more; they enjoy it less. You don't need a lot more room to manoeuvre in your emotional life. You just need a little. You are about to be given an inch. Don't take a mile; an inch is all you need.We all need to know where our umbrella is when it is raining. We rarely stop to think about shelter when the sun is shining. Whenever we decide something is vitally important, whenever we commit ourselves to a particular preference, we create a rod for our own back. We increase the likelihood of encountering a problem, because we have now increased the number of things that we cannot allow ourselves to accept and feel happy about. We ought, therefore, to be very careful about what we care about in life. Can you possibly 'let go' of the emotional concern you are now hanging on to?  . Things never go 'all your own way' for long. You must either accept this with good grace or gnash your teeth. Either you try to be a dealmaker, a philosopher, an idealist and yet a pragmatist. That's what makes it so hard to get to know true nature. It would be better if you no more believe in 'a perfect world' than in fairies.