we are all a bit like infants running around the playground exuding an attitude that we cannot really justify with an explanation?But you must first reach a point where you accept that your existing knowledge of something or someone is inadequate. Prepare to feel, first, confronted and then elated by the revelations that arise and the new developments in your emotional life and still if you are getting a distorted view. Stand further back. Become less involved. Look at what's happening as if you were seeing it through the eyes of a disinterested observer. That won't necessarily bring you complete clarity; it may, though, stop you from struggling to make sense of a situation that is chaotic by anyone's standards.