Be able to exert more control and attain more respect. While dealing with a set of circumstances which are largely beyond your control and notice a distinct increase in your ability to influence the outcome of an emotional drama.
 When the drum stops beating, when the band stops playing, when the cannons stop firing and the smoke stops billowing, what will have altered? Everything or nothing?  Want to know the outcome to an emotional drama in advance? You have every reason to be proud of who you are, where you come from, what you're doing and where you're going.These questions very often disturb us.This applies, even if you're not always entirely sure that you can satisfactorily explain all the above. Occasional uncertainty is nothing to be ashamed of.  We all have moments of self-doubt. We all experience anxiety, uncertainty, hopelessness or confusion. These emotions counterbalance forces within us that might otherwise give rise to unfettered arrogance. They cause us to ask crucial questions and unpick dangerous assumptions. They prove problematic only when they grow so intense that we can no longer remember how it feels to be comfortable and confident. Striking a better balance in your emotional life will prove easier than you expect.