We like TV talent shows because we all understand the judging rules. We don't really need those judges on the panels to tell us what is wrong (or right) about the performance. We just want them to articulate what we, ourselves, might say if we were sitting in their position. If only the game of life were as easy to play. Yet once we step away from that strictly theatrical world, it becomes so much harder to say what's good, what's bad, what's right or wrong. Think carefully before you judge yourself (or anyone else) too harshly now.
Artists love to play with perspective. Musicians enjoy mixing sounds so that some come to the forefront and others exist as a subtle but crucial background presence. A picture alters dramatically depending on what you place where. A symphony can be transformed by allowing a different instrument to dominate. As you now look at what needs to be altered in your emotional life, try keeping the same basic components but arranging them in a different order. A little creative experimentation could prove a lot more rewarding than you think.
Once upon a time people came to Planet Earth and searched for a deep, spiritual meaning to their lives. They asked profound questions of themselves and of the universe. They sought wisdom, even enlightenment. But then, some bright spark invented television and all that came to an end. Now, all any of us want is a movie star lifestyle. A trim figure and a trophy partner. That, and a good job... is surely all that any of us need. Isn't it?'
I'd like to teach the world to sing, in perfect harmony.' So sang The New Seekers back in the 70s with their song of hope and peace, of universal love, trust and forgiveness, and strangers stopping to smile at one another in the street. It became an enormous hit, not just because the tune was so catchy but because the sentiment struck such a chord. We wanted it then, we still secretly want it now. We might yet get it. But not by chasing rainbows indiscriminately. Some dreams today are probably best kept in dreamland.
Is the world really full of people who wish other people ill? Is it full of grudges and resentments, layers of entrenched antagonism and simmering pools of bitter hostility? Why, of course, not. It only seems that way if you read the wrong kind of novel or if you end up talking too long to someone with a spectacular chip on their shoulder. But, in reality, the hearts of all the people on this planet are full of a deep and genuine desire to share and express love. Allow yourself to believe that and you will soon see the proof of it.
They say, 'It's a dog-eat-dog world.' But dogs rarely eat other dogs. They say, 'Attack is the best form of defence.' That's not true either. Attack is just the best way to make sure that you will eventually need a defence. They say, 'We've got to look out for Number One.' But don't we keep hearing heart-warming tales of profound kindness? So, just how tough is your emotional life? It is exactly as harsh (or as hopeful) as your view of human nature. Things will work out much as you expect. So start expecting better!