You can turn the whole thing inside out and it becomes a coat of an entirely different colour, complete with matching buttons ( In case of a reversible coat). And that (just in case you were wondering) is the vital point. Something familiar is about to show you a new aspect of itself. You always hurt the one you love...'. But why should that be? Surely the people we love the most are always the ones that we want to hurt the least?  But relationships are complicated. The better we get to know someone, the more we see beyond their superficial facade and, of course, they see beyond ours, too. Though we all work hard to project an air of amiability, inwardly we can be grouchy and unreasonable. Some loving, understanding, allowance, now needs to be made for this. 
The more that people fear loss, danger or trouble, the more rigid their attitudes tend to become. A relaxed, confident individual is quite likely to agree to almost any suggestion or idea. They will at least be willing to think it through or experiment. They figure that they can always pull out if, further down the line, things start to look as if they are going wrong. So how can you see what lies behind someone's reluctance to entertain an adventurous idea? Look for some way to reduce their perceived element of risk.you have a naturally tendency to resist ideas that involve adapting. But experience teaches us otherwise. You just don't much like conceding minor points. If there is going to be some arbitration, let it all happen for high stakes. And when it comes to identifying where an apparently intransigent person may be most likely to bend, you reign supreme  is as if you can feel the excitement, as if you can sense that you are heading for a phase during which positive progress is inevitable.