Why do people frequently fail to show each other respect? Even when they have much mutual appreciation, they don't always express it as they should. When folk have enormous amounts in common, they tend to focus on the tiny areas of difference and disagreement between them and these become such big bones of contention that all other positive factors start to pale into insignificance. There is a wound that needs to be healed and a gap that needs to be bridged. Be big enough to try to make this happen.