You may be famous for your discretion and discrimination. You may be careful about what you say and to whom you say it. You may be even more careful about what you allow to take up your time. Having learned long ago, that 'all that glisters is not gold', you now rather feel that gold itself is a metal of questionable merit. What you currently seek is not expensive but it is elusive. It is a quality of fairness, rightness and reason. Such an understanding may not be rapidly reached.
Experts are often just people who happen to know a tiny percentage more about a topic than the rest of us. They are not infallible, yet we give them so much respect. Their words are reported in newspapers, as if they were pearls of great wisdom, dispersed by mighty deities. Our beliefs about what's possible are shaped by what they encourage us to see as realistic. So what view might an expert take of all that you are now contemplating? Don't be overly influenced by someone even anyone who may know less than they might like you to think. Love is something more than anything else,it above all.