Words are wonderful things. There are dictionaries full of them. And libraries full of dictionaries. You would think, with all these words and all these experts, we might stand a chance of understanding one another - at least some of the time. But words are slippery. They may not speak as loudly as actions yet they can certainly whisper themselves insidiously into the wrong ears at the wrong moments so sometime better to go beyond words and embrace deep, powerful feelings.There are many exercises in futility that we can undertake if we wish to. But some processes are doomed from the outset! If we really want to make some progress, pursue a plan that actually stands a chance of working. And treat the cause, not the symptom, of a particular malaise. Think about what's really going on. Ignore seductive but deceptive inclinations.