If you hit your elbow, twist your ankle, strain your neck... you don't get a choice about whether it hurts. You can (hopefully) mask the pain with medicine - but you can't just ignore it and make it go away. Is the same true of a psychological malaise? If you are in emotional pain, if you are sad or sorry, it ought, in theory, to be possible just to talk yourself out of it. But in reality? Well, let's just say that finally, a source of great recent angst has begun to recede. A welcome numbness is coming. If that turns into a sensitivity, make it a joy, not a fear.
When people behave badly towards other people, they very rarely do it deliberately. Generally, they don't know (or can't see) how offensive or upsetting their actions are. Those who are on the receiving end of such poor treatment find it hard to believe that it is not the result of a conscious choice. 'How can they be so blind?' say the victims. 'How can they expect me to read minds?' say the perpetrators. There is nothing to be gained from blaming anyone or anything this week, but there is much to be gained from pursuing peace.