Some folk get it right a lot of the time. Others, it seems, lurch from one disaster to the next. All of us, though, must learn to put natural fallibility in perspective. After all, even those of us who often feel inadequate have to accept that there are limits to our limits. While those who expect perfection from themselves and others surely have to grow up, the big issue in your emotional life this is not about success or failure but about finding maturity, wisdom and realism.  We associate wisdom with restraint and self-discipline. Yet, actually, sometimes, it can be most unwise to hold back a profound emotion or ignore a deep yearning. Likewise, it can be wise to show wild enthusiasm if this is what you truly feel. You really don't need to analyse your past or, indeed, any aspect of yourself. You just need to trust what your heart is telling you now, allow yourself to be clear, courageous and honest enough to honour your deepest feelings.