YOUR CHOICES AND YOU

There are many choices before you and Your current emotional challenge involves the need to balance an immediate preference with a desire for future security. You are not much inspired by the notion of making such a compromise, but you may yet come to discover that, really, it's not such a great sacrifice.  Though we can transmit and receive subtle signals it is called unspoken communication,but sometimes we have to voiced our needs-what needs to be said clearly say. : If you seek support, you'll always find someone who is willing to agree with you. If you secretly suffer from a lack of self-confidence, you'll always find someone who is willing to tell you where you are going wrong. Some people love to be helpful; others can't help but be hostile. We have to be careful not to read too much into their comments. Don't succumb to false flattery now but don't become hypersensitive to inappropriate antagonism, either. Just trust your own judgement. It is clearer than you realise. 

 Intense events have a way of seeking you out no matter how you try to hide from them. Recently, they have not only found you, but they have also kept you captive. You have been living through a great drama which has deepened by the day. All this has been incredibly good for you, but you have still found it hard to cope with a sense of comparative helplessness. You yearn to get back in control, and that is precisely what events in your emotional and personal life now offer you the chance to do.  

It seems as if you've got a tough choice to make in your emotional life. How are you supposed to cope? A lot hangs on a plan. You could be looking at a great success or a tough lesson. Is there much you can do to control which result you get? Well, there is one thing you could do that will definitely make a difference. Relax. The more you allow yourself to worry, the more likely it is you will make an unwise choice. The more you take a source of stress seriously, the more stress you suffer. Allow yourself time to breathe!  

 Beware any purported solution to an emotional problem that involves putting more fuel on an already furious fire. If you want an argument to end, deprive it of oxygen. If you want the heat to die down, remove, reduce or create distance from the source of the fuel. In your emotional life you have an urgent need to do... nothing. That's tricky. The temptation to take action is strong. Any form of action, though, will only lead to increased inflammation. It's time to find out quite how saintly you can really be - and how happy that can help to make you!